- Our 2 year old son has been cosleeping with us since birth and we are currently trying to adjust him into a toddler bed in his own room (this is due to the immense lack of sleep for us all).
- He wakes roughly 3-7 times each night. He also will wake within 15 minutes of falling asleep (most times) as well. He naps like this, too.
- He is addicted to the bottle (I had to pump exclusively due to latching issues). He will fall asleep after having a bottle and also needs to have a couple of bottles filled with water throughout the night (I know). We have tried to ease him wat from this, but he defies sleep.
- He falls asleep in his toddler bed, but wakes and wakes.....eventually halfway he end up back into our bed. Regardless, he still wakes up in either bed.
- He crys out a gut-filled cry each time he wakes (we have had him tested for possible gi issues, but there is none). He will also cry like this even if we are next to him.
So, I am looking for any advice or methods on how to induce a better nights sleeps for us all. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
The No-Cry Sleep Solution is a good resource. There is one for toddlers too.
how is he when he wakes, doe he seem all "there" and accepting of your comfort? i ask only because one of our twins has some night terror issues and wakes in a total fog and crying, it was really hard when i was trying to figure out what he needed, and although its a bummer, its atleast a comfort to know what it is and that im doing my best.
So what if I don't fit cleanly into a defined parenting style, my kids don't fit into a personality archetype either!
I also don't know if I'd try to change two things at once. I'd go with night weaning first, THEN anything else.
Another thing to consider is food sensitivities. It sounds like he's having cow's milk? That causes problems for a lot of people. You could try switching to a non-dairy milk and see if he digests that better. I am not an expert on food sensitivity issues but a lot of moms are and I hope they'll give some input there. If he doesn't nightweak reasonably well at this age and not physically on the breast, I'd wonder about a food issue.
But good luck and please keep coming back and letting us know how things are working so we can try to help you problem-solve. This does sound like a hard time.