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#1 of 3 Old 09-27-2012, 07:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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What is your experience with schedules and toddlers? Do most of them like it?

 

My DD and DS (10) are at their grammy's house 2-4 days in a row each week, including overnights. My DH is usually there for most of that time. I use the free hours to work on my business and meditate :)

 

grammy has a farm, and she involves DD in the chores heavily. DD helps with everything, picking veggies, washing them, etc. My IL's have a booth at two local markets. Anyways, I think they have, if not a routine, at least some things that are always the same ~ like reading before bed, showering in the morning, etc.

 

When we are 'home', we are doing one of three things ~ running errands in town for most of the day (town is 40 minutes away, so when we're there we're gone all day), hanging out here without much of a schedule or doing much of anything other than relaxing (only 1-2 days a week like that), or sometimes we have days where we do farm chores as a family, but those have been few and far between lately.

 

Anyway, on the days where we don't do much (and sometimes on the days we run errands) DD is really hard to deal with. She has meltdowns where she gets into a phase where she'll repeat the same phrase over and over like 'I want ice-cream!!' She'll get stuck on it for ages, like 30 minutes to an hour. Sometimes I can distract her, but this week it's been kind of bad. She normally eats very well, but this past weekend she had a doughnut from Safeway that her Grammy gave her. So corn syrup. Anyway, it always has to do with something she wants that she can't have, or something that she wants to do that she can't do.

 

So long as she is kept busy (busy busy busy!!!) she's okay but throw one tiny little wrench in the works and all hell can break loose.  

 

DS was never like this, he was so easy!

 

Any advice/suggestions would be very welcome :)


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Well, I find with my 2.5 year old that I have to be very conscious of the ups and downs of our day in order to keep her balanced.  It's not really a schedule, but more a matter of doing particular types of activities at certain times of day.  I'm still figuring it out, but usually she has an urgent need for outdoor/active play time at 9:30 or so, down time starting at 11:30 or so, but not TOO long lest she get droopy for the rest of the day.  Best time for independent play is usually after meals. You get the picture.  I wonder if the days on the farm have more natural ups and downs than your days at home?  I know I always think it will be nice to spend a day relaxing at home adult-style, but it just doesn't provide enough ebb and flow for my daughter. 

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my 25 MO DD has her little meltdowns at 6-6:30pm, when my hubby and I are distracted and not paying too much attention to her because we're doing chores and dinner. Maybe your DD is responding for the same reasons? I always give my DD a chore to do along with us and it usually snaps her out of it.
 

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