He does not seem to have a problem at night as long as i cut off his drinking in time for him to empty his bladder before bedtime. He says that he pees himself on purpose and that it doesn't bother him to be wet or that he is wet. He says that he goes in his pants just because he doesn't want to go to the bathroom. He does this whether he is doing something fun or classroom work. I've punished him, and he still doesn't care. He does this constantly. . He just walks around wet until he dries naturally. .I took him the pediatrician and he is healthy. Thank God. Please help me!!!!
My opinion is that when children are needing more autonomy, they sometimes fight back in those ways. I would give him healthier places to have more autonomy and see if he no longer looks for it in such a messy way. If that is what's going on.
I do also think that food sensitivies can cause problems with the potty, and the doctor probably tested for a UTI and things along those lines rather than food sensitivities. I am not an expert on that issue but you could do a bit of research on that, and maybe try giving up dairy for a bit and see if it improves, then re-introduce dairy and try giving up wheat/gluten, etc., and see if a food sensitivity is causing it.
But he said he's doing it on purpose so I'd guess it's an attempt to get some control over himself.
what about diapers? you could certainly put him in pull ups to avoid getting pee all over the clothing, but it is not of course solving anything. I agree on the autonomy aspect.
So what if I don't fit cleanly into a defined parenting style, my kids don't fit into a personality archetype either!
First, I would have a health talk about staying clean, which means not peeing in your pants, and if it does happen, removing them, and getting clean and dry clothes on. This does NOT have to be shaming, just matter of fact, this is what humans need to do. I would then have him change his pants and underwear and then put the clothes in the laundry to clean them. Do not help him. He is to care for it himself. Hand him the clean clothes, and a bag to put the wet clothes in, and leave him. I'd be worried about kids teasing him eventually at school. Maybe peer pressure will help him realize that he needs to take time to toliet himself.
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10