We found out late this afternoon that my almost 4 yr old DS has an abcess in a tooth and it will be pulled tomorrow morning. :-( We are going to the oral surgeon in the am and he will drink some medicine (valium-like ) and then they will pull the tooth out and clean up the gum, etc. They say he won't remember anything and will be very groggy but I want to make sure this is not very traumatic....
He knows that we are going back tomorrow and that he will drink "a juice" and then the dr will clean the tooth area to make the pain go away. It was a very stressful day and we decided not to be too specific about the procedure since he (we) will not have that much time to process all the information.
Now I'm thinking that pulling a tooth (one of his front teeth to make matters worse) is quite dramatic and that we need to tell him before the procedure that they will take it out. It is a part of his body afterall :( Can anyone suggest a good gentle way to have this conversation and to explain what will happen in the least scary way possible?
Although what you say is important, I think it is also how you say it is even more important. If you are calm, I think the message will come across that it will be OK. Will he get to keep the tooth? That can be an exciting thing to look forward to - as it will probably be his first tooth out I imagine. He'll get to do something special that other kids need to wait a bit longer to do (depending on what you decide to do when teeth fall out). Good luck.
Maybe also talking about how these are baby teeth and everyone loses their baby teeth at some point to make room for adult teeth. His baby tooth just needed to come out a little early.
I agree it's more how you say it than what you say. If you don't make a big deal out of it, I'm sure he'll be fine.