The only thing that works for her is having her naked from the waist down, which I do whenever we're home. Then she's 100% for putting pee and poop in the potty - luckily, she does not like to void on the floor.
For her, it's just going to take time, and I've mostly accepted that things will have to be entirely on her schedule rather than even remotely on mine.
We've tried every type of incentive (mostly positive and a bit negative), and every other type of trick I've ever read about on here and other resources. She has been physically ready to be 100% potty trained for months, but is obviously not mentally ready. DD is a super spirited kiddo in every sense, and this is just par for our course.
So my current strategy is keeping her bottom naked while at home, giving a smattering of matter-of-fact of praise when she goes potty, and keeping my mouth shut about anything potty related at other times. Frustrating, but it will happen eventually.
Katie - Married to Mike 06/02/01, Mom to Sydney Anne born 11/21/09 and Alice Maeryn & Oliver Thomas born 04/24/13
i really cant recommend more the book Oh Crap, Potty Training she is just amazing (and our kind of mom to boot) and has been potty training peoples kids for 12 years! thats a lot of kids. the book is just a 15 buck download and worth every penny, it has a whole huge chapter on just poop, she address a lot of what has been talked about here.
i have my 25m twins well on their way to potty trained bliss in just the last 4 days thanks to her and have really appreciated how she brings up and debunks a lot of myths and "common wisdom" her explanations make so much sense.
So what if I don't fit cleanly into a defined parenting style, my kids don't fit into a personality archetype either!
Right there with you. I am so over the diapers too. Being super pregnant does not help (I am sooo tired of dealing in other people's excrement...it's a sensory experience I totally do NOT want to be having right now. And unfortunately DS will NOT let anyone but mama change him, so here we are).
I have to keep reminding myself that DS has come sooo far in just the past 6 months developmentally speaking, that the odds are good that it WILL "click" one of these days.