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#1 of 2 Old 10-26-2012, 07:43 PM - Thread Starter
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Hi, our little awesome son is exactly 2.5 years old, and we have long known he is delayed in speech, and delayed in comprehension. Last winter, we had him in speech therapy and he saw an occupational therapist too. After becoming exhausted with running around to specialists, and watching him under scrutiny all the time, we thought, lets take the summer off, let him be a toddler, explore everything and just have fun.

Now we are back to helping him in full force:

We are back to speech therapy, considering doing it twice a week. He has started talking, single words mostly, communicates most of his needs, he can show/point to things I ask about, show me all his body parts (we learn a new one every day) and does tons and tons of animal sounds when we ask "What does a pig say?" He says: Oink Oink....he loves it. He is still behind the other kids

We switched pediatricians, I didn't feel we were getting the answers we needed at the previous doctor, so we have our first appointment in 2 weeks, where I plan to go over his development.

We are having someone go in to observe him in daycare and do an assessment of how they can help him

So, the point of my story is, my mom takes care of him part time, and this week was picture day at daycare, on a day that she would have cared for him. I asked if she could take him. 

As soon as they turned down the daycare street, he started crying. When he got in there and the photographer started taking pictures and he saw the massive group of kids and parents, he apparently had a MASSIVE tantrum on the floor. My mom pulled him into another room and he ran nervously of 30 minutes around. My mom was told by the daycare worker: "Oh, he is like that all the time. This is normal for him"

So....first, me, his dad and his grandma had NO IDEA he was like this, and secondly, he NEVER freaks out like this at home. EVER. He is a nice boy at home who has a great sense of humour, climbs stuff, laughs, demands the Ipad when we cut him off of it, asks for food, asks for me to open doors that are locked...kicks a ball, he is a funny, engaged child at home. He does have his quirks, he likes switching on lights....I talked to them this morning at daycare, they said he was too difficult, they couldn't handle him. They have NEVER mentioned A THING

We know he talks at home and doesn't talk at daycare. We also know that he does not socialize with kids (but is very engaged with us). The speech therapist said his lack of socialization is a big red flag. We know these are red flags. But the tantrums? We honestly are dumfounded and devastated. All three of us.

Where I live, its very very difficult to find daycare, I am looking for another, but this could take time.

I know he could eventually be diagnosed with Autism (he doesn't have any "obvious" signs, but who knows). But I also know he could be delayed and it not be Autistic

I have a LOT of distress over this, and I feel like we are doing what we can, but I am in a high risk pregnancy and I don't want to flip out too much

Since this forum is for delayed darlings, I was hoping another parent would know how to deal with daycares not being able to manage kids

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Sorry I know this isn't the Delayed Darlings forum, as I said in my looong post, my mistake

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