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My 15 month old son still takes a bottle of milk to go to bed(he drinks a sippy cup during the day bottle only for sleeping) but my peditrican told me I have to stop giving him a bottle completely because its affecting the way his teeth are growing and I want to stop anyways because I dont want his teeth to rot... But im not sure how to go about it... I cant just let him cry it out because me, him, and my 3 month old share a room so he would keep his brother up all night too! Its hard to rock him because he is almost 40 pounds and I don't have a rocking chair... And when the baby wakes up I have to stop rocking him and tend to the baby. Me and my boys dad currently dont live together, he comes over on his days off so for 2 days I have help but the rest of the week I'm on my own so any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated!! Thank You!
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Just to clarify - does he take the bottle to bed with him and use it as a comfort thing to put himself to sleep, or do you put him to sleep by giving him a bottle in your arms (like nursing to sleep), and then put him in his bed fully asleep? 

 

I don't have a lot of experience with the former, but for the latter, I think you will need to think of this as a slow process of transitioning to other ways of falling asleep.  For the record, I still give my 2.75 year old a night-time bottle, but she doesn't fall asleep to it anymore, and doesn't need to.  At some point in her second year she stopped falling asleep to the bottle, and by necessity we had to develop some other ways to help her sleep.  At first this was lying next to her, singing and patting/rubbing her back.  So, I guess for you I would suggest giving the bottle in a way that won't put him all the way to sleep and then....well, you'll have to see what works for you and for him, but if you can use this to help him learn to fall asleep in his bed, all the better, right?
 

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He goes to sleep drinking the bottle in his bed... His peditrican said no bottle at all anymore ever because its messing up the way his teeth are growing... Last night I gave him his cup instead of a bottle he cried alot so I rocked him for a little bit then put him back in his crib gave him his cup and left the room and he went to sleep, but he woke up crying a lot so I know its going to take some getting used to, for both of us. I'm going to try to start giving him water in the cup once he gets used to it at night and that way he's not drinking milk cause I've heard that will rot his teeth or maybe he won't want the water so he will just go to sleep without anything... but I'm just worried that he won't go to sleep without milk because he's so used to it...
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Although my son quit breastfeeding at around one year, and lost interest in his pacifier around the same time, he was slow to give up his nighttime bottle (he didn't give it up fully until around 2 for the record). 

 

I remember around that around the 12 month mark, it seemed like everyone was harping on how he needed to stop using bottles, but he was NOT ready, and would NOT drink out of any type of cup--it had to be a bottle, although he got to the point where it didn't have to be milk.  It was so hard to get him to go to sleep at that age, I wasn't going to do anything that might make the process worse (I really needed that time in the evening to grade papers, so I couldn't embark on a lengthy extended bedtime project involving a battle of wills over a bottle). 

 

For the record, the sky didn't fall in as predicted, he DID give that bottle up eventually without a lot of crying and drama, and his teeth did straighten out on their own (even if they hadn't, they all fall out anyway in a few years, so I would not lose sleep over that one).  Needless to say, I didn't win the Parent of the Year Award, but I'm sure not crying about it.

 

These are the stages I went through to wean off it--gradually! 

 

I never did bottles in the bedroom, but I was breastfeeding him to sleep for awhile.  You might try giving that last bottle somewhere other than the bedroom, then go into the bedroom when done.  (break the association between the room and the bottle).  Towards the end there, we did milk, then I read him a couple of books, then it was off to bed.

 

Gradually reduce the amount of milk given at bedtime until it's negligible.  Offer water instead (in the beginning you'll need to have a bottle of milk and a bottle of water).

 

Do an after dinner but before bedtime milk (a couple of hours before bedtime).  If you can get him to take it from a cup instead of a bottle, so much the better.  Offer only water at bedtime if needed.

 

Eventually the bottle of water loses it's appeal, and you can probably eliminate it, or switch to a sip of water from a cup.

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Last night, today for his nap, and tonight for bed time I gave him his cup instead of a bottle last night was rough but tonight was alot better, I kept him up a little later than usual and bathed him a little later than usual and then I put him in his bed with his cup and left the room and took my 3 month out of the room with me and he went to sleep without a problem!! My plan is once he gets used to the cup at night instead of the bottle I'm going to replace the milk with water and im hopeing he will do okay with that but either way im sure he will get used to it.
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Good luck, hope everything works out great!
 

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My boyfriend came over on his 3 days off and from day 1 he had him in bed with no cup or anything with no problem. So now for 3 days hes been going to sleep for nap and bedtime just fine without a cup or anything and has had no problem... I didn't know it would be so easy, I baby him, daddy doesnt, so im glad he was here cause I never would have tried stopping it cold turkey cause I thought he would freak out...
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I am going thru the same problem that many of the new Mommies are going thru here and I tried to read thru the posts, but I'm crying in exhaustion and grief and anguish and I'm having painful flashbacks of the ugly abuse and negligence the hospital put me thru throughout my labor and after the birth.  My husband and I have tried several times to wean our 16 mo lo off his baby bottle, which the hospital is responsible for (I had every intention of breastfeeding him throughout my new Motherhood, but the stupid hospital (I'm being kind) messed things up and the breastfeeding and strike and now terrible teething has been very painstaking and difficult and interferes with the natural process) sorry for doing parenthesis within parenthesis, I'm sleep-deprived and stressed and not thinking well, but I'm just trying to clarify things.  I do pump when I can, though not enough, and I desperately want to breastfeed him at least a few more times, if possible, it would make me feel very happy to do so, but he's got razor sharp teeth on top and bottom, which are quite ouchie for my sensitive nipples, and he's got 2-4 erupting in the back on top, poor little thing, and I just don't know what to do.  I feel very sad and heartbroken and I so miss breastfeeding him so very much and I know he misses it too.  Breastfeeding has always been a very special wonderful bonding connecting time and I know it's the healthiest best thing for him.  I was supposed to meet with a local lactation specialist who was going to help and be very supportive, but she had a family emergency and that fell thru, but I'll try again.  We read online and we were told by several people, including a few new Mothers and his pediatrician, that we must get the bottle away from him and wean him and get him used to his sippy cup, but our baby is stubborn and irritable from the teething and he's very used to his bottle, we're at a loss here.  1 Mother told us to take it away and just let him cry all night and let him go thru it and cry it out, but we don't want him to dehydrate and we don't want neighbors who are not terribly far away to hear him scream and we need sleep.  We know how vital this is and considering the pain he's enduring for his teeth to come in, we want to help him take good care of his mouth and be healthy.  We Love him dearly very much and it breaks our hearts when he cries and feels miserable.  We brush his teeth.  We're trying to be level-headed about this, but we're feeling very stressed and tired and we need help and support.  He's 20+ lbs. now, probably much more, and I'm petite and I have a sore arm, so, I hold him a lot, but when I'm exhausted at night, it's very difficult and exhausting to hold him for a long time to rock him to sleep and we don't have a rocking chair, though I wouldn't use it because it makes me feel dizzy.  My husband is concerned about his still having the bottle when we start socializing and interact with and meet other new parents and their young children, but to be honest, I'm not nearly as concerned about that as I am about the health of his teeth and mouth.  I've been quite Blessed with a healthy mouth and healthy teeth, sadly, not my husband and we want our little boy to have a healthy mouth like his Mommy.  Sorry for rambling, I'm crying as I write this.  I'm trying not to feel hopeless and helpless, but my Mother recently passed and I'm feeling tremendous overwhelming painful grief over her loss so my plate is quite full and I'm going thru a lot of painful grief and stressful anguish right now.  Please help!  I appreciate it, thank you!


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I am going thru the same problem that many of the new Mommies are going thru here and I tried to read thru the posts, but I'm crying in exhaustion and grief and anguish and I'm having painful flashbacks of the ugly abuse and negligence the hospital put me thru throughout my labor and after the birth.  

My husband and I have tried several times to wean our 16 mo lo off his baby bottle, which the hospital is responsible for (I had every intention of breastfeeding him throughout my new Motherhood, but the stupid hospital (I'm being kind) messed things up and the breastfeeding and strike and now terrible teething has been very painstaking and difficult and interferes with the natural process) sorry for doing parenthesis within parenthesis, I'm sleep-deprived and stressed and not thinking well, but I'm just trying to clarify things.  

I do pump when I can, though not enough, and I desperately want to breastfeed him at least a few more times, if possible, it would make me feel very happy to do so, but he's got razor sharp teeth on top and bottom, which are quite ouchie for my sensitive nipples, and he's got 2-4 erupting in the back on top, poor little thing, and I just don't know what to do.  

I feel very sad and heartbroken and I so miss breastfeeding him so very much and I know he misses it too.  

Breastfeeding has always been a very special wonderful bonding connecting time and I know it's the healthiest best thing for him.  I was supposed to meet with a local lactation specialist who was going to help and be very supportive, but she had a family emergency and that fell thru, but I'll try again.  

We read online and we were told by several people, including a few new Mothers and his pediatrician, that we must get the bottle away from him and wean him and get him used to his sippy cup, but our baby is stubborn and irritable from the teething and he's very used to his bottle, we're at a loss here.  

1 Mother told us to take it away and just let him cry all night and let him go thru it and cry it out, but we don't want him to dehydrate and we don't want neighbors who are not terribly far away to hear him scream and we need sleep.  

We know how vital this is and considering the pain he's enduring for his teeth to come in, we want to help him take good care of his mouth and be healthy.  We Love him dearly very much and it breaks our hearts when he cries and feels miserable.  We brush his teeth.  We're trying to be level-headed about this, but we're feeling very stressed and tired and we need help and support.  

He's 20+ lbs. now, probably much more, and I'm petite and I have a sore arm, so, I hold him a lot, but when I'm exhausted at night, it's very difficult and exhausting to hold him for a long time to rock him to sleep and we don't have a rocking chair, though I wouldn't use it because it makes me feel dizzy.  
My husband is concerned about his still having the bottle when we start socializing and interact with and meet other new parents and their young children, but to be honest, I'm not nearly as concerned about that as I am about the health of his teeth and mouth.  I've been quite Blessed with a healthy mouth and healthy teeth, sadly, not my husband and we want our little boy to have a healthy mouth like his Mommy.  

Sorry for rambling, I'm crying as I write this.  I'm trying not to feel hopeless and helpless, but my Mother recently passed and I'm feeling tremendous overwhelming painful grief over her loss so my plate is quite full and I'm going thru a lot of painful grief and stressful anguish right now.  
Please help!  I appreciate it, thank you!

Hugs to you! It sounds like you really need a rest.

I added paragraph breaks to make it easier to read. I hope you find someone with some good advice. I agree sleep is so important so make sure you get as much as you can to sort out what you need to do. I will try to write more later. Hugs!
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I am going thru the same problem that many of the new Mommies are going thru here and I tried to read thru the posts, but I'm crying in exhaustion and grief and anguish and I'm having painful flashbacks of the ugly abuse and negligence the hospital put me thru throughout my labor and after the birth.  My husband and I have tried several times to wean our 16 mo lo off his baby bottle, which the hospital is responsible for (I had every intention of breastfeeding him throughout my new Motherhood, but the stupid hospital (I'm being kind) messed things up and the breastfeeding and strike and now terrible teething has been very painstaking and difficult and interferes with the natural process) sorry for doing parenthesis within parenthesis, I'm sleep-deprived and stressed and not thinking well, but I'm just trying to clarify things.  I do pump when I can, though not enough, and I desperately want to breastfeed him at least a few more times, if possible, it would make me feel very happy to do so, but he's got razor sharp teeth on top and bottom, which are quite ouchie for my sensitive nipples, and he's got 2-4 erupting in the back on top, poor little thing, and I just don't know what to do.  I feel very sad and heartbroken and I so miss breastfeeding him so very much and I know he misses it too.  Breastfeeding has always been a very special wonderful bonding connecting time and I know it's the healthiest best thing for him.  I was supposed to meet with a local lactation specialist who was going to help and be very supportive, but she had a family emergency and that fell thru, but I'll try again.  We read online and we were told by several people, including a few new Mothers and his pediatrician, that we must get the bottle away from him and wean him and get him used to his sippy cup, but our baby is stubborn and irritable from the teething and he's very used to his bottle, we're at a loss here.  1 Mother told us to take it away and just let him cry all night and let him go thru it and cry it out, but we don't want him to dehydrate and we don't want neighbors who are not terribly far away to hear him scream and we need sleep.  We know how vital this is and considering the pain he's enduring for his teeth to come in, we want to help him take good care of his mouth and be healthy.  We Love him dearly very much and it breaks our hearts when he cries and feels miserable.  We brush his teeth.  We're trying to be level-headed about this, but we're feeling very stressed and tired and we need help and support.  He's 20+ lbs. now, probably much more, and I'm petite and I have a sore arm, so, I hold him a lot, but when I'm exhausted at night, it's very difficult and exhausting to hold him for a long time to rock him to sleep and we don't have a rocking chair, though I wouldn't use it because it makes me feel dizzy.  My husband is concerned about his still having the bottle when we start socializing and interact with and meet other new parents and their young children, but to be honest, I'm not nearly as concerned about that as I am about the health of his teeth and mouth.  I've been quite Blessed with a healthy mouth and healthy teeth, sadly, not my husband and we want our little boy to have a healthy mouth like his Mommy.  Sorry for rambling, I'm crying as I write this.  I'm trying not to feel hopeless and helpless, but my Mother recently passed and I'm feeling tremendous overwhelming painful grief over her loss so my plate is quite full and I'm going thru a lot of painful grief and stressful anguish right now.  Please help!  I appreciate it, thank you!

Have you been advised by a specialist that you need to wean h from the bottle immediately? If not the. I would not even think of trying to do it while he's teething. Unless you absolutely have to for some reason it's always best to avoid changing important routines while they are sick/teething/major developmental stage is occurring. Just do what it takes to get everyone through with as much sleep as possible and worry about the rest when things settle down.

Also, I don't know how you feel about using pain killers but we do not hesitate to give our LOs a dose of neurofen or Panadol if pain is affecting their sleep.

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My daughter is 16 months a refuses the cup. I've bought many and she drinks from them but throws it at me a minute later and wants a bottle. She loves her bahbah and I can't get her off it. I tried one day to take it away and after 5hrs of nonstop crying I gave up and gave her her bottle and she was super happy. My other 3 children gave up the bottle easy. I'm at a loss with it. I brush her teeth in the morning and at night, and sneak in at night and take her bottle from her mouth. Her teeth seem fine so I'm not to worried
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I wouldn't stress over trying to get rid of the bottle too quickly. We just put DD's bottles away this week at 28 months old and I think it was much easier than trying to do it earlier because I could explain that we wouldn't have bottles anymore, and that she could have snuggles and read instead. She was only getting milk in a bottle before nap time and at night and I held her while she drank it so that made it easier, that she wasn't actually falling asleep with it in her mouth (which I do think is bad for teeth). But changing to an alternative routine rather than just trying to get rid of it was the key for us. And honestly IMO it's better to wait till they're ready rather than try to rush it and create a bunch of stress and negative associations around bedtime etc.

 

So now we read three little books, then she gets a cuddle (which we did before after she finished her bottle anyway), kisses and say goodnight, and then she goes to lie down in her bed and I sit and read a book on my phone till she falls asleep.

 

Also, I tried to take DD's bottles shortly after a year old and she started getting dehydrated because she wouldn't drink enough from other cups. That totally wasn't worth it. She never would use a sippy cup (we had a little collection of different ones too), the straw cups were better, but regular glasses are what she liked best.

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