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Old 01-28-2013, 07:23 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi moms, My DD is 25 months, nursed until she was 2, co slept most of her life – there was a period of about 1 month (3 months ago) when we tried to transition her to her own bed, sleeping with either myself or DH but we all suffered too much so we brought her back to bed – which we are ok with. Weaning did not happen how I thought it would there was a point about 3 months ago when I was 'touched out' – she was pacifying all night, cranky, fighting me for it and I had had enough. DH saw/felt my pain and nursing stopped…it hurts to think about it ending this way bc all along it had been a good experience. My DD is very strong willed, wise beyond her years, and has a scream/cry that will rock you, needless to say I give in easily to avoid hearing it. Since coming back to bed, weaned, all has been well, she sleeps through the night – fusses here and there, but a gentle hand on the back and shes back to sleep – life is good J. Now here lies the new problem my DD almost always had her hand on my other breast while nursing, after weaning this stopped (mostly) too, but I let her if she ever wanted to, I think she finds it comforting. But the last few days she is always wanting to touch, play with and cuddle with my breast, even to the point where she is trying to get it out of the top of my shirt in the wee hours of the morning to nuzzle with, she wants to rest her lips on my nipple, I even have to reach down to make sure she dosn’t put it in her mouth, which she hasn’t... yet, but has been very close…I’m not sure where all this is coming from, up until a few days ago she only reached for my breast when she was nervous, or uneasy and now all this. I want to stop her bc the thought of weaning again kills me. I don’t want to be harsh about it, please help, looking for suggestions on my best approach to handling this new situation, TIA.
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Old 01-29-2013, 01:53 PM
 
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My DD lately has tried to be more touchy with my breasts (she was weaned ~19 months and is 3 now, so I don't think it is really a BFing issue, just curiosity especially since my pregnancy breasts are so much larger) and I've just put limits on it. I just calmly take her hand away and say no touching mommy's boobs or calmly take her hand away and tell her not to pull on my shirt. I think in your case, decide what you are comfortable with and limit to that. If you are ok with her touching a breast with clothing on, then limit it to that, or only with a hand, etc. When she does anything else, just calmly tell her the way you are ok with and redirect her hand. Just keep redirecting every time, it always takes awhile with my stubborn DD to get the point across, but it does work eventually.

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It sounds as if she is seeking comfort and security, something that breasts convey to a nursing child. Mother and breast are pretty much synonomous, breast=mother mother=breast, they are often inseparable. If she is newly weaned I would think she is just seeking that closeness and comfort that she felt so sure about before. Some children take weaning all in stride while others see it as rejection. I would just do what you have to in order to give her that comfort she is seeking, if you cannot nurse anymore than perhaps a reading a book, kisses, whatever she needs and seems to fulfill her. If all else fails, keep a snack by the night stand, perhaps she is just hungry at that hour.

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