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#1 of 11 Old 03-28-2013, 05:44 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi mamas,

This article has got me reflecting:

http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/education-21895704

Would love to hear more opinions and experiences.

Of course it's about balance ... But as ever "balance" is easier said than done. Also, every child is different and stage is different.

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thanks for sharing. i agree! toddlers no but when children get a bit older a little boredom is good now and again. when i was a kid im sure i would not have had "high tea" alone...lol if i were not bored.

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I think children of all ages should have time, and space, to get bored and create their own play.
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I think it's good for kids, including older toddlers at least, to not be entertained all the time. If there are open ended art supplies and toys around, and especially if there is outdoor space to play, they will find things to do, and it's good for them to have to figure out what to do themselves.

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I agree.  What do you all do when your child complains of being bored though?  I tell DD1 to go find something to do and maybe point her in the direction of the art supplies or tell her to go outside..... She still complains though (and she is only 4.5.... what is it going to be like when she is 10???)


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My mom had a foolproof method to deal with boredom: help her with housework. Needless to say my brother and I quickly learned to check what she was doing before saying anything and if it was "fun" (cooking, baking, folding clean laundry, etc) then we'd let her rope us into it. If she was doing dishes or cleaning then we'd grab a book or our bikes or just find something -anything- else to do lol.
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They do complain until they get used to entertaining themselves. I'd empathize with her and maybe remind her of what toys are available, but I wouldn't entertain her because she complains. To some extent you have to wait it out. You could always offer work to do :) LOL. There's a children's book where a child talks about being bored and the mom says, "Well since you have nothing to do and I have lots to do, how about if you help me?" and then lists off about 12 chores that need to be done, and all of a sudden the child thinks of something to do. I don't know how well that would work with a 4-year-old though. I think if you empathize and say, "why don't you see what art supplies you could work with" or something like that a few times, she'll come up with something.

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Lovely to hear your views. My little boy is nearlly 16 months and I'm only noticing him becoming a bit more content to entertain himself for a few minutes at a time these past couple of weeks.

We also do some house work (usually vacuuming... He's obsessed!) when we are out of other ideas. I love the above suggestions for the future when he may complain of being bored! :-)

From birth I've talked a lot to my son and narrated what's going on around him whenever possible. I'm finding that I feel a pang of guilt whenever I don't now, but at the same time I don't want to distract him from something he is focused on... Does that make sense? I'm just over thinking really!

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thanks for sharing. i agree! toddlers no but when children get a bit older a little boredom is good now and again. when i was a kid im sure i would not have had "high tea" alone...lol if i were not bored.

when i said" toddlers no" i was being self centered and was thinking all toddlers are two because mine is two... lol. he still trying to figure how to play alone. 

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Many two-year-olds are able to play independently for short, or long, periods of time.
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In my experience, when children get bored, one of their favorite pastimes is poke the mama...or poke the sibling, but either way, they will try and engage with someone until they get bored with that too.  My older daughter would not play alone for many years, but my second one would.  Of course, there are trade-offs for both.  

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