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I'm starting to get worried. Hubby has been worried, but I keep reassuring him that all kids develop differently, etc. etc. She can communicate..she understand what we say and can point or direct us to things she wants. She says a few things, but they're not clear..dog, dad, mama, bye, night night, yum, ow, deer, uh huh, and some animal noises. She says "da" a lot and sometimes in place of words she can say if I ask her to say a word. Is this something we should be super worried about? Other than speech, she seems to be developing completely normal. We will be taking her to a ped soon and will obviously ask his opinion.

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Our DS has a fairly severe language delay, so I've been there, asking the exact same question you are.

 

It is definitely true that kids develop at their own pace and I wouldn't be super freaked out by what you describe.  However, that her pronunciation is unclear, coupled with being behind in her vocabulary, would be enough for me to seek an evaluation.  Since it sounds like it is only an expressive language delay, I would start by seeing a highly regarded Speech Language Pathologist and get a professional opinion.  (Just make sure you see someone who is a general SLP, not a specialist in some particular disorder!)

 

As long as it is play based and child led, it can't hurt to look into a little therapy geared directly toward increasing her speech production.  After a long road with our DS, I'm of the opinion that I would rather look back and feel like I over reacted a little bit rather than look back and wish I had done more.

 

I would also check out two books that are geared toward parents helping their children work on language.  "Play to Talk"  by James MacDonald and "It Takes Two to Talk" by the Hanen institute have some great games and ideas for encouraging language.

 

All that said, I REALLY wouldn't worry too much.  2 is so young and it really is possible that she is just a little bit of a late talker.

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My oldest started picking up words after her 2nd birthday.  Until then she had 6 words, and that included "Ma" three times for Mama, moss and mask.  But she had top-notch listening skills, she engaged me with her eyes, she used signs regularly, could point and grunt and get her point across.  Not 3 months after, she was piling words on every day until at not-quite-3 she was ahead of her peers.

 

So, I would give it some more time-- another 6 months or so-- to see if her language starts picking up steam.  Then, if you still feel like something isn't quite right, follow up with an evaluation.


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I agree with fizgig that it's best to seek an evaluation sooner rather than later.My son had a severe expressive language delay, and our pediatrician advised us to wait and see if his language picked up naturally. That meant we didn't get him evaluated until he was 2 1/2 and still only saying a few words. He qualified for therapy through the state's early intervention program, but he had less than six months left before he was passed onto the school system. His special needs preschool class was wonderful, but the speech therapy he received was in a group setting and therefore not as effective as individual therapy. I really regretted not getting him evaluated sooner.

 

Yes, it's possible that your DD's language could just suddenly pick up between 2 and 3. That's what happening with my second child, who was barely talking by age 2 and has had a language explosion the past few months. However, I still went ahead and had her evaluated. She didn't qualify for the state program, but I would have regretted not trying if her language hadn't picked up and I hadn't tried to get her services.


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Would having her evaluated harm her in any way? Would not evaluating her cause harm?

We're not having this specific problem but another one that I'm taking my DS to the ped for JUST IN CASE. It will help alleviate my worries wink1.gif I'd feel better doing something than nothing at all.

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Sometimes the answer to that can only be had in retrospect.  I have heard others' experiences on both sides of that issue.  So much depends on who you find, the kids' reactions, whether or not they are going into preschool, the preschool itself if so.  Too many factors to predict before hand.  But you need to go with your gut, and keep listening to it.  If any professional is raising your anxiety about the situation more than it is helping, it's time to evaluate the situation-- maybe it's the provider, maybe it's just you, or maybe this isn't the issue you thought it was.

 

Wish it was clearer than that, but it's not always--in fact it's not usually so clear until you've passed that point and are giving advice to parents coming up behind you.


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Thank you for all of your replies. It is reassuring to me that there is help if she is behind. She is just totally different than her older sister..and while I try not to compare, I do worry. I'm going to get an appt with a ped and go from there. I'm hoping she makes a meap forward soon..the lack of speech and clear communication results in a lot of frustration and stress for all of us :/

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If my youngest had come first, I think I might have been more concerned with dd1's speech. DD2 was talking easily by 1yo--I once made a record for her and she had something like 50 words before I gave up listing them.  That compared to dd1's 6 words/4 sounds plus grunting and signs at 2yo.  

 

So, it must be hard going the opposite direction, and since frustration with communication is already part and parcel with toddlerhood, you might be doubly worried.  I never stressed about it, though, in part because I wasn't concerned with preschool looming (we homeschool and always have).  Then, it's hard to tell when a child responds to professional help whether he was just *ready* for his vocabulary to explode.  Conversely, I have known several 5yo boys (and at least one girl) who would have done well with speech therapy but never had it.

 

It's up to you, mama, and what you feel is not quite right.


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My youngest didn't say a word (she babbled when younger and then stopped) until she was 2 and a few months. I would have worried sooner as there are lots of hearing issues on both sides of the family, however she was SO ATTACHED to her older sister that for once I actually listened to other people who said "wait until the older one goes to school" and if my oldest didn't know exactly what she wanted all the time. My eldest went to school and my youngest started talking in full sentences pretty much the next day.

If she didn't talk after Sis went to school I was going to seek support at 2.5, but our health care works different here and we would have been able to get the support we need for as long as we needed it.

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