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#1 of 3 Old 06-21-2013, 12:42 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi all,

 

I am new in this forum , I am Margie, FTM and my son is currently 6 months old has glanular mild hypospadia..

I am not sure whether this section is best to ask this thing but I have several questions that bugging my mind (on parenting)

so we (me and husband) also his ped urologist decided it is best to leave it alone and he said his stream is only 10 degree lower etc (can pee standing, can have kids, no bending, etc) 

 

Are there any mothers here who have son with this condition? or probably husband with these conditions or friend, etc?

 

NoW as a ftm my biggest concern is how should I raise him? should I tell him ear lier or later? I heard boys are very sensitive with this issue (related to "his") any suggestions on how to bring it up? or should I wait until he bring it up to me?

 

Will this condition affect his sexual orientation? (I know this might sound stupid question) but again I really don't know where to ask. 

 

If there are any man with this condition,I'd really love to hear their experiences directly (I have read sue from the other sites, but I feel it is better if I can connect and ask questions directly)

 

How to help empower my son and give assurance of his self esteem?any experts here about raising son? (esp on their sensitive years - pre puberty etc)

 

 

Thanks a lot , I am looking forward to hear input, advices, sharing related to this condition..I really appreciate it.

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Welcome, Margie. I can understand your anxiety about this issue, but as a grown man with glanular mild hypospadias I can assure you that there isn't cause for worry.
 

My parents never discussed the condition with me; I doubt they even noticed. I base this on the fact that when I asked my father about it when I was around 10, he sort of scratched his head and said, "Heck if I know". My folks took me to the family doctor, who just said, "Normal variant. Shouldn't cause problems. Nothing to fix."

 

I'll admit that I was a little self-conscious about it when I was in my late teens and early 20s. I avoided any encounters where someone might notice and comment on it. But looking back, I was making a bigger deal of it than it was.

 

It's my opinion (can't confirm it) that hypospadias may be connected with other urogenital developmental issues. There may be bladder or urethral abnormalities (in my case, a urethral diverticulum that caused many UTIs). I also believe that surgical repair of hypospadias does nothing to address these other issues and can have an unattractive outcome -- from what I've seen. I think mild hypopadias is best left alone.

 

Normal boys' meatuses are all over the place. There's different types of hypospadias, there's epispadias, and there's the meatal opening at or near the tip. But everyone's different; it doesn't ever help to think that there is an "ideal" and a variation from that is bad.

 

The odds are that your son will have no issues. Your interest in understanding his condition is laudable, but I hope that it doesn't cause you needless concern. For most of us, it really is a non-issue.

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My first husband had that. He was totally fine and had no issues. Perhaps a tad self conscious in puberty but that was it. Nothing major to worry about. He had no issues with anything....


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