I went to the doctor's office today for a "routine" check up for our 14mo old and was met with open hostility by a new doctor. I was lectured and ultimately threatened by her because we identify with the Mennonite (how we live) lifestyle. We raise our own food, milk cows/drink the raw milk and don't eat things that haven't been prepared naturally. This doctor threatened to call the Health Department on us because in our state it is illegal to SELL raw milk for human consumption. We're not selling it, we're drinking it. I thought honesty was best, so I said we drink our milk straight from the cow - a cow that is pasture-fed (GMO free, grain free - aside from what we use to lure her into the milking station, etc...). Then, even though it's been in our charts since our first born (3 years now) she lectured me on what a BAD parent I am for not vaccinating our children (even though it goes against what we believe). She then threatened to call Children's Services on us and file a complaint! I am so angry at this vicious attack from her! Now I am stuck trying to find a new pediatrician's office before my baby (who is already 3 days overdue) arrives.
Where is a good place to find a friendly Holistic doctor? I feel so overwhelmed and emotional (partly due to pregnancy hormones)...I know I will breathe easier once we sever all ties with this practice and find a more reasonable establishment...one that understands our lifestyle and how we choose to live. Anyone else out there have similar encounters? I could really use some encouragement!!
Hugs!! That sounds so terrible, I'm sorry you went through that today. Do you have a good relationship with whoever is going to deliver your new baby, ie - doctor, midwife? I would ask them for a recommendation. When I had my daughter, my midwife give me a list of recommended peds and I also asked on a local crunchy meetup group's mailing list.
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HUGS, you will find someone. I second the ask your mw/ob about it.
I've had the ped get upset with my ideas, but usually I present the "uncool" parts of our lifestyle as possible ideas that I'm considering trying ;). Then they can unload against my idea and congratulate us on being saved from the horror of a baby rolling over onto her stomach while sleeping ('cause, of course, I wake the child to keep her on her back. riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight). Unless they ask, I don't tell.
Threatening to call CPS on you for doing something that is totally with in your legal rights is not okay. Have you considered filing a complaint against her, both with her office and the medical board?
I wouls also file a complaint against her with her office. That is insane, you are well within your legal rights. (sounds like a wonderful lifestyle by the way.) Even if she called CPS, there is nothing they could do and honestly, they would most likely dismiss the call and hopefully concentrate on cases of true endangerment.
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Have you considered a Family Practitioner? They are usually more relaxed, and not so fear based (IMO and from what others have told me about their own experiences). I agree with the PPs, talk with your midwife/ob and any friends you have with similar life-style choices. You should be able to have a short meeting to ask a couple of questions and get a feel for their practice(s). I am sorry about the poor timing! Don't let this make you feel rushed in finding the doc that is right for you and your family!
Good luck Mama, they are out there!
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