I'm sorry you didn't get a response :( That happens to me sometimes. From the title it sounds like you are dealing with some really hard stuff. I hope that you have good support and things ease up for you soon. I know one of my friends has a very hard transition with her kids that were similar ages. mama.
Girl absolutely in love with boy and our DD (11/06), DS1 (08/11) and DS2 (brand new!)
I wrote a long post and got my feelings hurt when there were a bunch of views but no response. I don't always respond to what I read, so I shouldn't expect everyone else to, but it's been a rough couple of days and I was grouchy.
I'm sure we'll make it work, I'm just feeling bad about how hard this transition has been for my 2 year old DS. Thanks again for your kind words.
I also didn't see this thread until these responses have bumped it -- maybe it got lost in the shuffle. Hoping things are improving for you and your little family. Be gentle with each other and take things slow. It's a big transition for all of you.
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I am watching this post, not because I have advice, but rather we will be having our second child soon and wondering how my 2 yr old might respond to it. I am hoping some others with multiple children will share some stories or some advice. Thanks for posting this question. :)
DS1 is very strong willed and "spirited", but until recently he's generally has a happy disposition so even when he's been a challenge he's bounced back quickly. Now that's all been turned on its ear. He is having tantrum after tantrum and resisting almost everything, all day long. It's exhausting. A couple of times last week I lost my patience and yelled at him and treated him more harshly than I want to. DP and I have been arguing more lately, too, sometimes very bad and sometimes in front of DS. He's also seen me just cry and cry on a couple of occasions.
I think he's got to be confused and insecure because of all the stress and transition, and I know what he really needs is for us to remain calm, loving, and consistent, now more than ever, but that's been hard to achieve.
This weekend we have had family in town and it has been so wonderful to have the extra help. I hope it's been a good infusion of happiness that will carry over into next week so we can have a fresh start.
I don't really know what I was hoping for in posting here- maybe just some encouragement and some btdt stories
I've btdt, too, but apparently it's been long enough that I didn't realize just how hard it would be to do it again! I mean, I knew intellectually, but I wasn't emotionally prepared...
In the end, all I can say is yes, it's hard But you will survive and so will your elder LO. I was more worried about the transition than I needed to be because really, only time could fix it for us. Love on your babies, get out of the house, embrace your elder LO, smile and drink coffee and know things will get better.
At 2 months my sweet ds1 returned to his normal(ish) self. At 6 months postpartum I had gotten control of my life again. At 11 months pp, we are in an awesome rhythm. Parenting is fun and challenging and delightful though still frustrating at times
Me: Sarah, married to: J, mommy to: C (8/10) and E (11/12)