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#1 of 7 Old 01-31-2014, 12:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My 2 yr old DD is constantly being left alone, by both me and her sisters. I leave her not because I don't want to be with her, but because she always seems like she enjoys being alone. and why her sisters leave her alone I honestly can't say! should I be leaving her be, or should I be playing with her? please help! mecry.gif 


I'm the single mommy of nursing kids Tina (4) Joy (3)Abigail (1) and Aspin (3weeks). hear are some emoticons that describe me:
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If she's happy alone there's no need to step in.  My 2yo is very independent and mostly plays alone - makes up voices for all of her toys, like reaaaallly gets into it!  My being there, sometimes puts a damper on the play and so I like to just stand back and watch her.  When she wants me she lets me know.  She was super needy in the beginning so this is a welcome break for me, but not all that surprising since I too was an independent kid and still do like my alone time!

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cool, thanks sassyfirechick!


I'm the single mommy of nursing kids Tina (4) Joy (3)Abigail (1) and Aspin (3weeks). hear are some emoticons that describe me:
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Some articles by Janet Lansbury will confirm you're on the right track!! http://www.janetlansbury.com/category/parenting/parenting-play/


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IMO it's a sign of a well-attached kiddo- she has confidence you will be there if you need her.
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My twins have played with each other as off on their own, both without adults for a very long time, since they learned to crawl well. We have always been a bit surprised how much they seem to like it. We made sure they have had large very age safe space. I spent a lot of time when they were 1 and 2 just sitting at the edge of the room reading my self a book being ignored! Now they are 3 and are amazing kids that are outgoing, curious and quick to learn how to the world works. I think what you have is a sign of a adventuresome kid that feels safe!

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I dont think your doing anything wrong. My daughter is pretty independent has been since she was a few months old, now she barley ever wants to be held or cuddled unless were reading or shes sick. She did like when I would get on the floor and play with her before she learned how to walk but thats about it, anything else she wanted to do on her own.

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