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Old 05-04-2014, 11:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I don't wear "designer" labels my car is new but not a "mercedes." Should this really matter when two toddlers want to have a play date?? My DS asked to set up a play date with a classmate I did. After the first "play date" ditched not once but twice. It only hurts the children who want to be friends regardless of "possessions/class!" Rant over!
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Old 05-05-2014, 12:23 AM
 
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Oh dear - sorry to hear you feel you've been treated this way.

 

I think small children are pretty oblivious to these nuances, but parents certainly aren't :(

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If you are talking about toddlers, then the only thing they seem to notice is other toddlers' sippy cups or toys. My ds was enamored with  other kids' sippy cups, but we didnt use them. I bought him a couple just so he could take them to the playground.

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I've never had a parent refuse playdates for this reason, but I have definitely felt the disparity in income/possessions between myself and some of the other mothers.  I feel uncomfortable hosting playdates for this reason.  I find it helps to keep the first few playdates simple affairs at public places to give you parents time to get to know each other - and hopefully get beyond the point of judging based on possessions. 

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Ugh. That sounds awful...
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Despite our constant efforts networking, applying for jobs, interviewing majority me. I am underemployed and for the time being keeping the finances from draining as fast. I know it effects my DS despite the smiles on our faces is a pit of nonstop worrying. So when we can do something for him a simple public outing with a friend. I take it to heart because that I can do. I never spoken about our unemployment/underemployment. I kept the topic light. I'm not there to be a "friend" to a mother that clearly made a snap judgement about me. But give the kids a chance.
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