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#1 of 5 Old 06-01-2014, 10:54 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Need help with my Co-Sleeping, BFing 16month old.

My dd is 16months old (on the 4th). She still BFs and co-sleeps. But no one is getting much sleep anymore. She is restless and wants most of the bed. DH isn't getting enough sleep and with his job he NEEDS plenty of sleep or it's not safe. She nurses to sleep and wakes up 2-4 times at night and has to nurse back to sleep. She will not go back to sleep without nursing. I need her to move to her own room. I don't care if she nurses to sleep or wakes up during the night to sleep. But I need her to stay in there.

Right now, I nurse her almost to sleep, give her her paci, rock her the rest of the way to sleep and then lay her in her crib. If she wakes up, I rub her back until she goes back to sleep. She will sleep maybe an hour tops in there and then wakes back up. At this point I have to move her to our bed bc even if I nurse her and get her back to sleep she will wake right up when I lay her back down and stay laying down.

Here's the worst part. This child doesn't just cry. She SCREAMS. She always has. She has never just cried normal LOL She screams like you're killing her. And she won't "self soothe". The longer she cries, the worst it gets. Granted she's never been left to actually cry longer than a minute or so. So when she wakes up when I lay her in the crib, rather than whimper or cry she SCREAMS and I can't handle it.

But it's time, I need her to sleep in her own room. Any advice? TIA!
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It doesn't sound like she is ready to move to her own room. Have you considered moving with her? Or your husband moving to a different room? We did this when our second DD was about 8mo. We did it so I could nightwean DD1 and then discovered how much sleep we all got :-)

I have bedrails on the bed DD2(18mo) and I sleep in but DH and DD1 just have a mattress on the floor.
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DH and I have also spent periods here and there sleeping in separate beds. DS was like that; trying to put him in a different room was futile and so much more frustrating than him hogging the bed. The way for all of us to get good sleep was for DH to sleep in the guest bed. Now DS is 3.5, still cosleeping, and it's much more enjoyable for everyone.



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Right now she just has a crib in her room but we've been thinking about putting a twin bed in there for her. I think we will get on that this weekend. Thanks :-)
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Wow, she sounds exactly like my DD at that age. In fact I wrote a very similar post at the same age! I have no magic to offer you..... Just to say it does get better. DD started sleeping thru the night at 17-18 months & she just did it on her own. She is now just 2 yrs old and is as excellent sleeper- a full 12 hrs in her bed at night & 3 hr nap in the afternoon. Hang in there mama!
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