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#1 of 4 Old 06-17-2014, 11:42 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Getting baby to sleep with noisy toddler

For those of you who have a toddler and a baby:

What do you do while you are getting baby down for naps? 2 or 3 times a day I'm nursing baby down in our big bed and the toddler is very interruptive. If he is left to his own, he will crawl all around the baby or walk around his head, hit him in the head (!), or throw toys like duplo around the bed, play making a lot of noise, throw pillows, you get the idea. He seems to think it's funny to bother baby while he's trying to go to sleep. Needless to say this make the process impossible.

So what do I do? Most days I put on a show for him to watch. This means he is watching TV for much, much longer than I want (1-2 hours a day). I'm not okay with this, but the alternative is barking at him and getting very frustrated at him while baby gets overtired and ignored. Also, I've tried locking him in his room. He'll protest at this, but sometimes I hear him playing happily after a little crying at the door. 1) I'm trying to look for ideas to keep him occupied other than TV (something that he'll do 100% independently) 2) I'm trying to figure out if it's harmful to lock him in his room vs. sticking him in front of the TV for hours. Any help?

I intentionally spend a lot of one-on-one time with him while baby is sleeping, but he still wants all my attention WHILE I'm getting baby to sleep. Other times he will run off playing happily all by himself.

I get really frustrated because I feel like families are meant to live in community and mothers aren't meant to parent all by themselves all day. There SHOULD be another person around to keep the toddler occupied, but there isn't. So, what? He has to watch TV or be locked away???

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Just want to say I had the same problem An yes, we ended up watching much more then I would have wanted. But after the baby go a bit older and his naps started consolidating I only ended up needing to do TV shows once or twice a day for about 30 min each time.
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That's actually just started happening...nap consolidation. DS2 has been taking just 2 naps most days. So, if I'm lucky I'm just using it twice. I've been trying to go without the TV some and things ARE getting better...but it's still frustrating. Thanks for commenting!

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Can you nurse baby in your arms and transfer her to bed once she falls asleep? That way you could read to both of them while nursing?

I know it's hard, I have a 4 month old and a 26 month old. Basically I nurse baby in my arms throughout the day, which does involve many interruptions. She sleeps in the stroller in the morning during our walk. When tot is eating lunch in his chair I take her up for a good long one on one feed and she may nap after that. In the afternoon I nurse her and try to get her to nap in her chair (reclined) after I put tot for his nap.

I think it's only wrong to lock him in if he knows that's what you're doing and there's a chance it could hurt him (emotionally). It's okay to use tv if you're home alone with two so close in age, 1-2 hours a day is ok. I'm sure you're doing great, big hug
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