I am just having a hard time mamas and could really just use advice, a comforting word, or pretty much just someone to listen out there. Last night I was out with the kids (ages 7, 5, and 2.5) and heard a whisper of that terrible phrase..."that kid
." More specifically, "She needs to learn to do something about that kid."
I am completely heartbroken, I've had a really hard time with my toddler and was already worried about his behavior so well...it just hurt to hear this from someone. I'm not overly confrontational, and have anxiety issues, so I didn't say anything back. Instead I just kind of folded into myself and took the kids elsewhere.
My two oldest children have always been very well behaved, they never even hit any kind of "terrible 2s" stage. They've just always been like this, and very polite. Of course, I always chalked it up to me just being an awesome parent.
Ohhhh how life will teach you a lesson about being full of yourself. My toddler is a handful
. Even when he was a newborn he would only take 15 minute naps, he has always wanted to be into everything...which is totally fine. The problem is that he is just...wow. I don't even know where to begin. He thinks sharing only means people should share with him, so he rips toys from other children's hands and says "NO YOU SHARE!" (or rather, screams it in their face). He pushes, he hits, he screams NO at the top of his lungs (not even exaggerating, I've had my neighbor complain she could hear him in her living room), and I just feel like ripping my hair out. He also yells for us to "hush" all the time, something I know he picked up from my mother-in-law.
I've read books, I've read blogs, I've talked to my friends who work in childcare (who just keep saying "he's spirited!")...I've taken all the tips I could and implemented them. Still nothing, just fit after fit. I know it's not completely my fault, but I blame myself because this is the first time I've had to work outside of the home with kids. I was a SAHM with the first two, but my husband (who is...also a handful haha) is the one who is at home during the day with our toddler (I have joint custody of the first two so they're not always there). He works at night.
I have suddenly now also become "that mom" because the only thing that keeps him from flipping out all the time is to watch Thomas and Friends. I used to ban TV during the day (I typically just put music on the laptop) except for 30 minutes for the older kiddos...and now it's like it's always on. Which I know is terrible for him, but I am at my wit's end and totally don't know how to handle this anymore.
I just don't even know what to do
I was a member here years and years ago and always got good advice, so this was where I naturally gravitated towards when things got so overwhelming this morning. Don't worry about hurting my feelings, I just need some support and if anyone has something that will work please oh PLEASE share. Also it may go without saying here, but still want to make sure to add it in...we're a non-spanking household so I would prefer suggestions with gentle discipline please. He's also very verbal, yet doesn't seem to understand when I say things like, "Hitting hurts mommy, let's use our words and nice touches instead." He knows what "nice touches" are and what "hurt" is, but he isn't putting things together.
Thanks ladies (and gents?), I appreciate it <3