What is *your* little 19-20 month old doin these days? My DD is adjusting to having a baby sister taking mommy and the meemee. She is a good big sister though, and trys to help in her own little ways.
Owen is talking up a storm. Climbing, throwing, anything physical--he certainly will be an avid sportsman of some sort. This age is just too darned fun!
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my ruby is everything i always wanted in a child. she is like a mini me. that may sound terrible in ways but i assure you she is her own strong personality and i'm not in any danger of dominating my children, more likely the opposite. we just understand each other so well. and i don't know how much of that is the girl thing. for awhile i thought wow, i need more girls in my life and i need to make more and today i was wondering if any girl could compare. (of course they would be wonderful, but ruby is just so darned sweet). i completely relish her presence, even though she already shows her hen qualities and gets into everything. yesterday i got out of bed and she was brandishing a butter knife and my couch was painted with a block of cream cheese. a new bag of bagels was broken into pieces decorating it as well.
i know it is my own fault for not being able to get up. reed has been waking before dawn and rousing the others. it is some kind of blessing that they can even be alone and that i can sleep in but it does not feel good and then we are out of sync. but it's been almost six years that reed has been kicking me in the head and yabbering for me to get up and he finally quit it about a month ago. so i'm a little shocked when i get up now, that they are busy and helping each other and safe.
she wants to pee with the guys and leans in standing. she can aim somewhat. she's also been showing her clitoris to us, triumphantly i might add. the other day she was pressing a piece of neon colored playdoh on her vulva and i had to laugh quietly.
Okay, I don't want to make the same mistake as last time and forget to post on the new thread!
Scarlett is into a lot of 'I can do it myself stuff' lately. She wants to get her own water and shut the door etc... She has also been screeching lately either for fun or frustration. I really didn't think she could match Revina's ear piercing screams, but she can.
She is also putting together small sentences and knows how to use I and me correctly. And to every response "why, why, why"!
Tonight Revina was with their dad for awhile and it was just me and Scarlett. Those times are few and far between. I put on some Dead and she just laid her head on my shoulder and we danced and danced. So lovely
To quote Jerry... "I love you more than words can tell..."
My EliBean is really doing amazingly well. I feel horrible these days, because my temper is so short with him sometimes (I'm still having hormone fluctuations) but he's such a sweet boy. His favorite thing to do is climb; he likes to get to things that we have tried to put out of reach. He's actually very good at it, and likes to talk about it afterwards. He also loves to pour.
Eli is also getting used to his sister. He likes to nurse with her, and often helps burp her. He tries to help her sleep which is very sweet but kinda scary, so I have to watch him like a hawk when she's sleeping. See, Eli likes to sleep with something heavy and light-blocking near him. At night, it's dadda or mamma, but during the day it's a pillow. If I put Rivkah down to sleep, Eli tries to put a pillow on top of her!
I know it's an act of love, but it can be scary. I have learned that the point of a pack-n-play is to protect babies from their loving older siblings.
Every morning, Eli wakes up, uses the potty, and kisses his sister; sometimes he kisses me too but more often than not he says "I just have kisses for SisterBaby," :LOL It's really very sweet.
I think he's really enjoying being an older brother, except for when it means he has to be patient and wait for something from me. (This usually comes up when he's very tired.)
What can I say about Christopher? Well he has been a downright grump lately. I don't blame him though. I would too if I was cutting 3 eye teeth at the same time. I am suspecting that some 2 year old molars are showing too. He is quite the climber these days. He loves climbing on swing sets but he is afraid to go down the slide. He is picking up more and more words every day and starting to put two words together to get his point across. Nowadays I am hearing "all done", "all gone", and "more milk". I am trying to sign more with him since he is interested in learning the sign for the word. On Aug 16th he will start attending a Mom's Morning Out/preschool program. It will be nice to have some time to myself before David shows up but at the same time I am going to miss him.
Right now little Mukti is covered with chicken pox and is with baba having some berries. Oh he's so beautiful. The illness is softening us all. He looks up at me with his deeply blue eyes, big cheeks, soft curls and generous mouth all drooly and covered in big red spots and he smiles with his whole body and I think, oh how can one little being be so beautiful. Yesterday we spent the day comfort nursing and at one point he looked up and said, 'bess you mama'
That he can be and feel so magnanimous in the midst of his itchy misery awes me. Last night we spent a good part of it simply nursing and singing quietly. Today the hours continue to unfold their story.
i wondered where you guys went. I posted this in GD but Haven't had any responses I hope you momma's can help me.
I need your help GD momma's and dad's! My dd is 18 months old. She co-sleeps, is still nursing (although we did night wean about 2 months ago) slings occasionally (lots before she became mobile). I am at my whits end right now. She is very agressive with other kids. She goes to a family day care 3 days a week and she is mostly fine there. Doesn't share but that is the age I guess. Anyway our DC provider doesn't have this problem with her except in rare instances. We have a playgroup with about 10 kids that we have been with since they were all about 2 months old. They range in age from about 17-20 months. I have a very hard time at this group b/c I have to watch her like a hawk. She grabs kids faces, pushes and hits. I don't know what to do expect stop going but I would like to correct this not just avoid the situation. (plus I really like these moms and kids) I notice at home she hits and bites us when she get's to excited so that may be the case here as well. This is particularly hard b/c there is only one other AP mom in the group and all except me are home full time with their kids. They suggest time outs etc and I am not sure I want to go that route. I hope there are some other ways.......Any suggestions?
Otherwise we are doing great..... getting ready for the convention next week (we live in boston less than a mile from the fleet center)
he smiles with his whole body and I think, oh how can one little being be so beautiful.
Rose--this is how I look at Owen as well. (although I feel sadness in a way because I don't look at my 8 1/2 yo like that anymore and I should...I mean, he IS beautiful and he IS full of wonder and amazement but in a different way than Owen is right now) Owen is going through a phase of empathy and appreciation. We'll be sitting and reading and he will gaze up at me and kiss me and hug me like he's saying "thanks mom". It makes me melt. He also hugs/kisses one of us if we've been hurt. It's just so awesome.
Originally Posted by Brayg
Owen is going through a phase of empathy and appreciation. We'll be sitting and reading and he will gaze up at me and kiss me and hug me like he's saying "thanks mom".
Originally Posted by abranger
They suggest time outs etc and I am not sure I want to go that route. I hope there are some other ways.......Any suggestions?
i think that our dcs are too little to "get" time outs. especially for this kinda thing. impulse control is just so hard with this age. I think even if she knew what she were doing she'd have a hard time with telling herself to stop (does that make sense?).
smaller playdates? that'd be less sharing mama, fewer kiddos and easier for you to interject.
erin is a dream these days. We are just back from lake superior (1.5 miles from home). She was walking on the beach and then we put her feet in and she was screaming "i do it". She thinks she can swim. This can be problematic but fun.
Um she's also a talking machine.I'm loving it all except....she's nursing like a newborn. What's the deal? she had me used to 2-3 times per day and now we're looking at 8-10 times per day. Sigh. Developmental milestones come with the need for nursing right?
eli is also nursing like a newborn; in fact, he's doing it right now! :LOL i'm not sure if it's the age or the personality or the fact that he's got a new sister; with eli, i suspsect it's some combination of the three. what i do know is that around 10 months, when most other children were cutting back, eli still nursed like he was just getting started. when i lost my milk during the pregnancy, eli was still getting at least 70% of his calories from breastmilk.
which leads me to a question: is it reasonable for a child this age to live on breastmilk alone? i have a hard time getting eli to eat any but his favorite foods (fish, yogurt, and pediasure) and even when he will eat them, it's in very small quantities-- it's like he's saving room in his belly for the nursies. i'm fairly certain that if i didn't bother going through the agony of offering him food, he'd happily nurse all day long. i wouldn't even ask, except that it seems like he's losing some of the nice pediasure weight that he gained, and eli's never been a big guy. he was nearly 25 pounds and 33 inches tall, but I think he may have gotten taller and lost a little weight, because I can see his little ribs again.
i have no helpful advice for the queries. my 3.5 lives almost completely on breastmilk. my kids hit - ruby too. it helps when they can talk more about what they want. prevention and intervention can help make an aggressive person into an assertive person. i just comfort myself that they won't be stepped on as adults and will have less psychological or physical problems since they can let it out.
casina... I'm assuming that you've been tandem nursing since Ruby was born? How was it for you when you first started? I'm so paranoid that my NB is getting enough, even though I have plenty of milk. I just wonder about the nutrient quantaties. Haeven would nurse like the NB if I let her.
Jas, I worried about that at first too.. for about five minutes, before I realized that Rivkah is gaining weight much faster than Eli did. I think Eli's incessant nursing has actually been very good for her; she's never had to work hard to get milk, it's always right there for her because Eli does all the hard work of bringing more milk in (he's much more efficient at it than she is). Rivkah can just sit back, relax, and drink, stopping whenever she feels like it. I don't have to worry about her not "emptying" a breast, because Eli will nurse on the side she was on after she's finished. It's almost like Eli's playing "clean up." :LOL
yep, that beautifully sums it up! i also have designated each of them a certain breast and it stuck after awhile, about a month in? occasionally they will try the other one. but the breasts seem to accomodate them and now they prefer their side. clay's did seem richer at some point when i did check but now they are at about the same amount. i did the left and right thing actually more for the ease of slinging one side and just so that my arms knew where to go everytime. i also started something awhile back which was calling their set sleeping and my favorite position "first position" i got tired of tweaking at clay everytime how to lay. i often have to tickle and nudge them some and stand up if they are getting crazy, but when i tell them to get in first position generally they get right to it.. i just wish i had thought of a cleverer or sweeter name at the time.
i remember wondering about the nutritive qualities and realized that if anything, my milk was richer because of the older baby. my babies also get fat so fast and eat all the time and i have plenty of output to tend to to prove to me that they are fine....on the other side, i've finally lost alot of weight with tandem nursing for some reason. of course i'm mostly glad i'm skinnier. i have eaten all i want, all the richest stuff and then some for years now. it seems i cannot stop eating in general nursing two. i mean now that i'm not twice this size i know that these two are easily taking 1000 calories a day.
i also seem to recall that for my kids that the change in growth is the least from this age to three. just getting a little longer.
How are the pox, solsticemama? We were lucky that our little ones got a very mild case, and it's over and done with now. Hope little Mukti isn't eetchin anymore
. I loved what you said about our babies being so incredibly beautiful. It is so amazing to me- looking at the beauty in my son. An absolute miracle, to say the least.
We're back from vacation. The kids seem happy to be home, back in their own comfortable environment. They've been busy getting into things, checking out their boundaries again. I'm glad to be back home, however hot it is here :LOL. Supposedly it was 116 yesterday!
Thanks for asking DecemberSun. The chicken pox wave seems to have crested yesterday after about 5 days of misery for ds. He's still in the contagious phase tho until about Sunday which is ironic 'cause this is when it's really starting to look dramatic--red, blotchy and crusty. He didn't get a mild case, that's for sure. Those spots are everywhere--tongue, ears, head, bum etc--but his spirit is strong and shining thruout. Which one of yours got it and when did they have it?
My SIL is due any day now and she's asked me to be at the birth. It'll be my first since ds was born. I was so wonderfully supported during my labor and birth I'm hoping to return the favor. Hopefully I'll be able to make it. Her family is known for super fast labors so we'll see.
Poor little guy! That sounds a lot like the case I had when I was 5. I had pox EVERYWHERE, and they seemed to last forever. I even got a little scar from one on my nose!
All three kids got the chicken pox a few months ago. Crystal was exposed at school, and brought them home (even though she had been vaccinated years ago). Julianna actually got sick first- but we thought she just had bug bites form the lake. She had a few pox on her legs and back, had a fever for a day, and was done. Zach had one red mark on his face, had a fever for a day, and was done. Crystal had them all over her face, but nowhere else, and was down and out for about 3 days- fever, sleepy, just not feeling well. Maybe we just happened to get a mild strain- but I hope they did get enough of an immunity to fend off the varicella virus. Maybe some kids just react more severely to it? I sure hope your boy feels better soon, Rose... That's no fun!
My secound dd is Ursula and was born December 22nd, 2002.
I tandem nursed for a little while. My oldest is almost 4 yrs older and nursed throughout my pregnancy. I actually weaned her a couple months after she turned four years old, when Ursula was about 4 mths old. I'd let Ursula nurse first.
Nowadays, she still nurses quite a bit. She still wakes up quite often at night to nurse.
She also hits, bites, pulls hair, and pinches (mostly done her older sister) and has regular tandrums and also that ear-piercing screech that she has recently discovered.... I really think its because she's not as vocal as others her age. My oldest spoke at a very early age and I never really had these problems with her. I really do feel its because of not being able to communicate her needs as effeciently as she'd like to.
She is just now trying to really talk and imitate our speech. I find that those 'problems' mentioned above are getting rarer with her ability to communicate, whether with words or with actions.
I've also said that her personality is one of a strong-minded woman that won't let anyone get in her way and that she'll know what she wants and will do or get it.
Welcome to the clan, alibuff! I think your DD shares a Birth Day with solsticemama's DS, am I right? The little winter solstice babies...
I forgot to tell you all- my doggie
: Luna had 5 puppies yesterday morning! They're beautiful, but it's something else watching her nurse 5 babes at once! But, I guess that's why God gave her 6 nipples, :LOL. We have to be really careful with Zachary because he likes to squeeze them!!! I have to tell him "No touching, kisses only" and then he kisses their heads
Welcome to the clan, alibuff! I think your DD shares a Birth Day with solsticemama's DS, am I right? The little winter solstice babies...
Actually my ds was born a day earlier with the turning of the light.
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Originally Posted by DecemberSun
I forgot to tell you all- my doggie
: Luna had 5 puppies yesterday morning! They're beautiful, but it's something else watching her nurse 5 babes at once!
Kind of puts things perspective doesn't it :LOL
DecemberSun scarring is something I"m a bit concerned about with ds since there are so many spots on his face. Do you remember your mom doing anything special to prevent that?
Welcome alibuff
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