I just wanted you to know that it is possible for a 2 year old to learn to use the potty! My dd is completely potty trained (or learned, whichever you prefer)! She has been in full-time underwear, including nights, for about a month now. Dd was a VERY early learner, though. We introduced the potty around 15 months and she immediately took to it. She hasn't pooped on the potty since 15 months. She was really good about going potty on the toilet, too, but if she was wearing a diaper, she would often not tell me and go in her diaper.... or tell me too late. She never really liked the potty chair and has always prefered going on the regular toilet, without the attached kid's potty seat. We just held onto her and now she just holds on herself. She spent A LOT of time naked, mostly by her choice. We couldn't keep clothes on her! So, that really helped. We switched to pull-ups/training pants around her 2nd b-day. Finally, about a month ago, I realized that she RARELY went in her pull-up and woke up dry in the a.m. So, we made the jump to full-time underwear. She had a couple accidents in the first week, but has done great since then. I think making the jump to underwear on outings was the biggest part. I was nervous about doing it, but I figured, how will she ever learn unless we just do it? If she has an accident, oh well... we'll change her clothes! We always make sure she goes potty before we leave the house and before naps and bedtime. If she's pretty preoccupied while we're out, I offer her reminders about going.
Anyway, just wanted to share our success story! It's really great when they are out of diapers!!
She still takes 1 nap during the day.... usually around 2 hours. But, the past week, she's been napping for 3 sometimes 4 hours!! I've started to wake her up after 2 1/2 hours because she's been having a hard time going to bed at a reasonable hour. She's usually excellent about going down for naps and bedtime. She weaned
at 20 months when I was 6 months pregnant with my son. I really wanted to get her to sleep on her own (without us laying with her) before my son was born. I found that it was really a weaning process! I would lay with her and then I started to sit at the end of her bed and then eventually would go in my room "to fold laundry" or something. If she cried and REALLY wanted me to lay with her, I would, and then I would just try again the next night. We're finally to the point where we just read books, tuck her in, turn on her lullaby CD, give kisses/hugs, and then she goes to sleep on her own. If she's having a hard time relaxing and going to sleep, we talk a little about the things she did that day in a very soft, calming tone and what we're going to do the next day. I will also sing her a lullaby. I also find that a lot of foreshadowing helps her know that naptime/bedtime is coming.
I would also be interested in learning more about the Feingold diet. What's the website? I've heard great things about it and have been meaning to track down my old Mothering to find the article.