i gravitated toward this thread but as i read through the stories i kept thinking that while my dd is just as independent and into doing her own thing and often unwilling to cooperate without major negotiations, she's also very shy around other people and wouldn't be called wild by people who didn't know her very well.
i think the trait she shares with all the wonderful little ones referenced above is intensity, be it quiet or loud. focused and self-directed, very strong willed, idiosyncratic.
i'm in a little support group for moms of spirited children, as the book we are currently working with terms them. it's been very helpful for me. i had read the book (ok, that's a little strong. i never seem to have time to read
anything, i skimmed it) and i've pulled it out when behavioral issues overwhelmed me, but the group provides for me what is going on in this thread -- reassuring example after example of other kids behaving perfectly normally for their personality type, but who are considered out there by parents of children who either are tempermentally different or who have, as my husband and i judgementally call it, broken their spirit (i think we label it this way to make ourselves feel better about how hard our kid is to raise
so, does anyone else comfort themselves, as they lie exhausted on the couch at the end of the day, with the thought that they got this sort of child because she'd be horribly mangled in most other families?