My oldest son has A LOT of attatchments. He is so outgoing - and always has been. Both sets of grandparents, and all his aunts and uncles are clearly on his "comfort list." And his teachers. And our neighbor who I swap childcare with regularly.
My little ds is more attached to me, and less outgoing. He likes all his grandparents, and will stay with them, but doesn't hug or cuddle them as much, and asks for me fairly often. However, he is also attached to my neighbor.
I've always loved it when they get attached to other people. In my mind, the more adults they trust and love, and who love and care for them in return, the safer and happier they will be growing up. *I* am wonderful (of course
) but there will be times and ways that I will fail them.
I think of all these other people as my "back ups." They exist as part of our lives to help me raise these boys with as much love as they deserve.
Also, it is an extremely happy thing for me to know that there are children other than my own who feel trusting and attached to ME. It makes me happy when my friends little boy wraps his legs around my waist and lays his head on my shoulder, or when my nephew sits on my lap and leans back while I read him a story. These kids have devoted parents, and yet I think I play an important part in their lives too.
The more love, the better!