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#1 of 41 Old 10-05-2005, 11:09 AM - Thread Starter
 
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DS has been going to bed between 10:30 and 11pm. He takes a nap during the day from 11:30-1 (he is home with DH during the day). Dh says sometimes he takes a second nap.

Does you Toddler stay up late?
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My 32 mo. old stays up past midnight most nights. If he skips his nap he might go to bed earlier, but it's not guaranteed. I'm always going "PLEASE sleep, I'm tired!" We both get up around 9:30-10:30am.
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My dd doesn't really have a bedtime, lol! I just pretty much follow her lead with everything. She has never slept well and just a few weeks ago started sleeping through the night, and she's two! Let's see last night she went to bed around 12:30am. My dh works 3rd shift so it works well for him. He can come home and catch a few winks because she doesn't get up until around 11am. She also has thrown out her nap, however yesterday she fell asleep around 6:30pm and slept about an hour. But, she has the seasonal cold right now so she's not feeling too well.
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We're on a late schedule too. DD goes to sleep around 10-10:30, wakes 8 or 8:30. It works for us. I like having time to myself in the morning. Some people are horrified by late bedtimes, but I think those are the people who wake their kids at 6 am for work or daycare or whatever. (BTW, DD naps from about 1:30-3:30.) Do what works for you. If dd went to bed earlier, she'd have hardly any time w/her papa.
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That is about when we get all of the chilldren (and usually ourselves) to bed. We are aiming at getting it earlier.

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We used to on a late schedule, bedtime was 10-10:30 pm, and he got up at 8:30 or 9 am. Now that he is in preshool 2 days a week, he has to be there by 8:30 am so he is going to bed by 8:30. Plus (he's 3) and doesn't always nap anymore, so he's well ready for bed by 8 even.
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We're on a late schedule too.
She will fall asleep anywhere from 9:30pm-2:30am!

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DD used to go to bed as late as 2am. It was driving me crazy! She was grumpy during the day because she was getting no sleep, and I was grumpy because with her staying up so late, I couldn't go to bed when I wanted to.

For anyone that wants to change the late bedtime, I highly recommend The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers. It was recommended by someone here, when I was asking for bedtime help, and I swear it's practically become my bible. :LOL DD goes to bed now between 7-7:30pm (depending on how late she naps that day), and falls asleep without a fight, every single night. She also naps now! It's like, a total miracle. The whole mood in our house has changed. We're all a lot happier.
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We were night time people so my older son just went to bed whenever. I use to work the night shift and DH and DS would stay up until 4 AM. Which was nice because he would be sleeping while I slept during the day.

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Usually about midnight here. She's always been on our hours.

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We don't have a bedtime here, she goes to bed when she asks to be put to bed. It ranges between 6:30pm (if she's missed her nap) and usually 10, but sometimes even later than that.

It always seems whichever is most inconvenient is what happens! :LOL If we want to go out in the evening she will invariably skip her nap and need to go to bed early so we can't go out. If we are tired or want some time alone, that's the night she's not tired until 10 or so. Ah well. It's inconvenient but I think trying to force a schedule would be a pain in the butt, not to mention set up a power struggle over bedtime. (she may stay up late sometimes, but she always lets us know when she is tired and goes to sleep quickly and easily. I can't imagine that would be the case if we were trying to put her to bed when she didn't want to go.)

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My 28 month old usually just goes to bed with us around 11:30. For a while she was up until 1:30, but I've gotten her back to 11:30. I'm working on getting her to bed by 9 or 10, but I've done that before and if any little thing disturbs her routine she's right back to midnight. She's been that way since she was born and it's obviously just her natural rhythm so I don't fight it too much.
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We're on a late schedule too. DD goes to sleep around 10-10:30, wakes 8 or 8:30. It works for us. I like having time to myself in the morning. Some people are horrified by late bedtimes, but I think those are the people who wake their kids at 6 am for work or daycare or whatever. (BTW, DD naps from about 1:30-3:30.) Do what works for you. If dd went to bed earlier, she'd have hardly any time w/her papa.
I have three kids and bedtime for all of them is at 8:00 (the older one reads until 8:30). It takes a lot of consistent effort to get children on a schedule, but I really believe that it benefits both them and us (dh and I find that time alone everyday to be so important to our relationship). Not all parents that are "horrified" by late bedtimes have their kids up early for daycare. The body has a natural cycle and getting to sleep early and rising early is a very big part of that. There's a lot of studies coming out now showing how and why sleep is crucial to our wellbeing (and they are looking at why sleep timing is so important - ie: why sleeping longer does not make up for going to bed later - pretty interesting stuff).

Anyway, not a criticism of anyone, just a voice with a different opinion.

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If DS has a nap he's up until 11-12. I'd almost prefer he didn't nap, but most days it can't be helped. And crazy thing is, it doesn't matter if he falls asleep at noon or 5 pm or if he sleeps for 15 minutes or 2 hours--he will still be up until midnight. Tonight was perfect though--he didn't take a nap and I was able to keep him awake until 7. He should sleep all night .

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I've got a 13 month old and she goes to bed between 10-10:30pm everynight. I stay up until 1am or 2am myself and then we wake up together at 9-10am. It is a nice little system for us and I get my alone time at night instead of the morning (just never been a morning person).

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I'm with MamaTara I have read that the sleep before midnight is more benifcial then that afterwoulds. I'm always trying to get myself to sleep earlier for this reason but must confess to being a night owl, it's often 11-12 before I go to sleep.
My dd nearly 4, since dropping her long afternoon sleep about a month ago now goes to bed between 7-7.30. It was much easier when she naped then went to bed between 8-9. DS 12 months goes to bed about the same time, sometimes closer to 8 if he took a late nap.
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Mine usually falls asleep around 11 if he naps, although sometimes it's more like 11:30 or 12:00 when he really knocks out. If he doesn't nap, he sometimes falls asleep at 6:30 or 7, but also sometimes stays up until 10 or so, so I don't really know if he's really outgrown the nap or not. He usually wakes up by 8:00 or 8:30, but sometimes has slept until 9:30 or 10:00. I think the night he was nursing until 1:30 he didn't wake up until 10:45!

I know that he would benefit from a regular bedtime, but he fights sleep and has never been a good sleeper. He's got sensory integration issues and is very resistant to any sort of routine. Maybe an early bedtime is good for people, but forcing him is too hard! I have to hold him down to brush his teeth, to put on his diaper, and can't exactly hold him down to get him to sleep!

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LOL about people's kids skipping a nap and then going to sleep around 7 or 8 for the night. I used to be so excited on days when Charlotte didn't take a nap because I'd think "ok she'll go to sleep earlier and then we can get into that habit." No such luck. If she skips her nap she'll fall asleep at 7 or 8 ... and then wake up at 9 or 10 pm and be raring to go and not go back to sleep until 1 or 2 am. I kept trying and trying to lay with her when she woke up and nurse her so she'd go back to sleep, but it doesn't work. She's genuinely hungry and raring to go play. Now I work to make sure she gets a nap earlier so she goes to sleep by 11:30 with us.

I haven't read the research about sleep before midnight, but somehow it intuitively doesn't work for me. My body's cycle is the same as my daughter's - I'm a night owl. I'm much happier (and less tired) in my life since I quite trying to fight that natural tendency.
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I've got a 13 month old and she goes to bed between 10-10:30pm everynight. I stay up until 1am or 2am myself and then we wake up together at 9-10am. It is a nice little system for us and I get my alone time at night instead of the morning (just never been a morning person).
apecaut-- You sound exactly like me! We have the same schedule.
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Heck no! Dd goes to bed between 7:15 and 7:30. I desperately need my downtime and dh and I like to be alone to watch movies and whatever.

If she decides to nap during the day she will stay up until 9 but that's about it. She has always been a good sleeper.

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LOL about people's kids skipping a nap and then going to sleep around 7 or 8 for the night. I used to be so excited on days when Charlotte didn't take a nap because I'd think "ok she'll go to sleep earlier and then we can get into that habit." No such luck. If she skips her nap she'll fall asleep at 7 or 8 ... and then wake up at 9 or 10 pm and be raring to go and not go back to sleep until 1 or 2 am. I kept trying and trying to lay with her when she woke up and nurse her so she'd go back to sleep, but it doesn't work. She's genuinely hungry and raring to go play. Now I work to make sure she gets a nap earlier so she goes to sleep by 11:30 with us.

I haven't read the research about sleep before midnight, but somehow it intuitively doesn't work for me. My body's cycle is the same as my daughter's - I'm a night owl. I'm much happier (and less tired) in my life since I quite trying to fight that natural tendency.
Eva does the same thing when she skips a nap!
And I too am much less tired, if I go to sleep when I'm tired, rather than toss and turn for hours!

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I'd go insane if dd stayed up that late. I can't make it past 10pm myself. We have a bedtime routine that's flexible so dd goes to sleep between 8-9 every night. She's recently learned to stretch it out by asking us to read every book on her bookshelf. That's when we got out the timer. But she has no problem going to sleep when the time comes. I echo some other mama's who said they need the time with their dp after kidlet goes to bed.
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I couldn't handle that late of a bedtime! Sounds like it works for you though and that's great.

We start bedtime at 7p, and he is in bed, lights out at 730. I'm generally up until around 930/10, then in bed reading until 1030. DS gets up at 7a, and I get up with him.
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My dd goes to sleep at 10:30 or 11PM and gets up somewhere between 8 AND 9 AM. She also takes a late nap somewhere between 2pm and 5 pm and sleeps for 2 to 3 hours.
It works out well. We dont really have a schedule but roughly thats her schedule.
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We had that pattern for a long time. She resisted all efforts to be shifted back. She'd always wake up about 830 am, if she didn't nap she'd go to bed about 12 hours later, if she did nap, it'd be midnight for sure.

One morning I got her up 3 hours before her usual wake up time, popped her in the car expecting her to go back to sleep and she didn't. Since then, her usual wake up time has moved back two hours, so even if she naps, she'd asleep by 10. Without a nap, she's in bed sometimes as early as 6PM!!!!!!!!! Though usually around 730
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When my ds was taking an earlier nap, (10:30 - 11 AM) he was goign down btween 8-9 Pm at night. But he has gotten used to going down around 1:30 Pm or sometimes later for naps, which means he is up 'til at least 10 PM and may not fall asleep unitl 11 PM. He wakes between 7:30 AM and 8 AM no matter when he goes sleep. He makes up for the missing sleep by napping longer. (sigh) I wish I could get him back on the old 8-9 Pm schedule......
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My 12 month old has pretty much always kept the same schedule as DH and I. He generally goes to bed anywhere from 9-11 pm. Occasionally he will stay up even later, but that it not typical.

In all honesty, it would be a big pain in the butt if he were the type of kid who needed to be in bed early. DH and I both work and it is 6:30 before we're both home in the evening, 8:00 by the time we're eating dinner and so forth. Not only would we never be able to do the things that we need to sometimes do after work (grocery shopping, other errands, whatever) but DH would be crushed since the evenings are his only real time to hang out with the little guy during the week.

It just works out for us and since I work from home, DS can sleep in for as long as needed in the mornings.
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ds2 often goes to bed at 10 or 11pm. DH works 10-10 (3 days) and gets home around 11 and ds2 likes to have everyone home before he goes to bed. Else he feels left out :LOL
As long as he gets his 12 hrs, I don't really mind.
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nope almost 3year old DD bedtime is 7:30pm and she naps fro, 1-3pm

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Wow! How awesome to read this! My dd has always been a bit of a nightowl like dh. I used to work REALLY hard at getting her in bed at 8:30. When it was consistently taking over an hour of laying in a dark room with her nursing on and off to go to sleep (and me growing increasingly irritable), I finally gave up. She now falls asleep pretty quickly between about 9:30 and 10:00. Sometimes 9:00, but not often. She sleeps until between 7:30 and 8:30, then naps for usually a couple of hours early afternoon. If she doesn't nap, she does go to bed a lot earlier, but wakes every 1 1/2 hours all night (ugh!)


This works well for our life. I only work outside the home 1-2 days a week, one of which DH is home with her. DH is a resident and often doesn't get home until mid-evening. I'm a morning person that is thrilled to have alone time in the mornings when I am most productive. Actually, since DH is up pretty early, we often get time together in the morning. It's nice!
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