you all have been of help before, so here I am again asking for help.
My son is now 2, and off and on again he has been declaring his independence for the past 6 months, which is normal.
What I am alarmed at, and do not have a solution to yet, is the way that he protests. He REFUSES to get in the car seat, and unless I muster up all my physical strength to shove him in, it doesn't work. I've tried telling him that it is safe, I've tried games, songs, treats, etc. I even tried simply waiting until he was ready. This worked, but the time interval was getting longer and longer, (about 20 minutes in the car until he was *ready*) and I felt it was giving him the wrong message.
Another example, is that he REFUSES to get dressed and/or have his diaper changed. This usually results in yelling/fighting, I am ashamed to say. I had tried again using distraction, songs, poems, games, and on rare occasion they worked.
He protests verbally (NO!), and physically he fights -- pushes, falls to the ground and thrashes around, etc. even sometimes he hits. He is verbally very advanced for his age, so I'm not sure if this is about not being able to communicate.
One problem is that his father and I do not live together, and his father is more likely to use intimidation before distraction or games to get him to do anything, and so I think this may set the stage for when I have to deal with a challenge.
I know something has got to change, I have read Dr. Sears' Discipline Book, and Raising Your Spirited Child, but it seems that the children mentioned in these books respond to games, songs, routines, but my DS does not. He is a very passionate boy, and that means passionately happy, too.
I want to have his cooperation, but don't know what to do. I find myself dreading having to go anywear, knowing that I will have to somehow get him into the car, or get him changed, etc.
HELP! (is this just a 2 year old and he will "snap out of it"? Or is this setting up the stage for aggression as he gets older?)