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I am just getting back to work (and a computer) from maternity leave and it couldn't be sooner in as much as we are having such a painful struggle with our 3yr old dd and holding her poop
She was pretty much potty trained while I was still pg but started to slide as the day got nearer and since our new dd has been born it has only got steadily worse. I'm sure there are posts in the past about this but I'm just looking for support. To think that I thought it was bad when she just held it in for a couple days and then would hold me prisoner in the bathroom for hours in a day until she finally pooped out such an enormous, well it was unimaginable. And she was never constipated, not once, you could tell from looking at it, v. healthy. But it has got steadily worse. Most recently, she says with absolute conviction that she does not want to and more over she is not going to. And it will be days, a week before she just can't do it any longer and it will be so emotionally painful for everyone. The poor child can't hardly walk or play and it affects her concentration, her personality and she just seems unhappy, not herself. She says her tummy hurts of course!it so hard to see her! but won't believe that its because she needs to poop. And to see her face and she tries to hold onto it and contorts her body, and falls on the floor every 10 mins. it is just awful for her I can tell.
She'll run to the potty, then says "its gone back in". Until the nxt urge comes. Well, I've decided to try this over the counter medicine that my sister recommends, I have resisted using any medication until now. She doesn't even like juice unlike most kids, even if I could give her prune juice or something. It is terrifically surprising she can hold it the way she does, because she honestly is a good eater and water drinker. This medicine has mineral oil in it and is not a stool softener like some others is what my sister says, it will just make it easier for her. Well, up to now, even if it was enormous it didn't really seem that hard for her to poop when eventually she would put herself to the effort. I am afraid that if she can't hold it we will be dealing with way, big messes now. At the end, she would be trying her hardest to hold it and little dime and quarter size pieces would "escape" out and she would be constantly asking us to wipe her. So what can we expect after we give her this medicine?? Has anyone experienced anything as traumatic as this? or is this common? and not as out-there as I feel? I am just crying inside to help her get past this....control thing, but I don't think I can wait for her to get there on her own, though I know she will eventually. It is just too painful, for all of us, there has been too much yelling which I am ashamed of and mostly I do worry that she might permanently hurt herself. I apologize for the novel, but there has been a lot going on, that until now, I have had no outlet to share with others who may have experienced this. I hear it is common but I don't have anyone to talk to.