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Old 01-29-2003, 01:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I thought this was funny, though not my typical approach to situations like this.

I was picking ds#1 up from an activity at church last night, and I had ds#2 with me. We needed to be outside the classroom door, and ds#2 was ready to sleep, had a long day, and was generally miserable. He started to tantrum about something beyond my control and it escalated to a ridiculus volume. Teachers up and down the hall were glancing out their doors to see what the trouble was and other waiting parents were clucking their tounges, etc.. I tried everything to calm him, sitting on the floor cross-legged and snuggling, nursing, empathizing, making promises about going soon. I would have liked to take him in a quiet room and help him pull himself together, but we had to be where ds#1 could find us.

So I finally whispered to him,
"Would you like some money? Stop screaming and I will give you some money!"
He sucked his breath in and stopped immediately!
I handed him a quarter, and he clutched in his fist and stood there quietly until it was time to leave!!!!

:LOL

Am I AWFUL? He doesn't know what money is for. It wasn't a payoff as much a distraction. But you should have seen the looks I was getting from other parents!
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That's great! Sometimes the element of surprise works best!!!

Mom "D" to DD1 "Z" (15) and DD2 "I" (11) DH "M"

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Well . . . whatever works!
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Mamaduck, you crack me up.
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Mamaduck, you crack me up.
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Excellent -- I've made a prominent mental note! DS loves quarters, too, so this has great promise...it's money in the bank, in fact!

Desperate times call for desperate measures...
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I read your post out loud to my dh and he asked, "is that wrong??" We were cracking up! We've offered ds a shiny new car for high school if he goes to sleep some nights, but cold hard cash never occured to me....I'll have to try it!
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You ladies need to ask Nursing Mothering about her nickname "Booby Bakesaler". Let's just say it had to do with how costly weaning became! Is it the BEST way? I dunno. But I seldom argue with success.
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That was a FUNNY thread!!!
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:LOL
One of my girls was melting down a bit at the mall one day waiting for dh to pick us up and a 40ish obvious batchelor guy was like, would you like a quarter? if you'll be good for your mommy I'll give you a quarter. and i just had to laugh! my girls looked at him like he was from outer space - they didn't even know what a quarter was. ha! that was before i broke down and gave them a gumball one day. they'd scoop that quarter up in a heartbeat now!

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:LOL

my 15-month old is begining to tantrum...

I guess I better start learning about the 'last resort' measures
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Mine is a cheap date so to speak. I flash a boob or start undoing my nursing bra and she is all over me.

Asking if they want to take a bath works at home too!!

We did that tonight when she had to come inside after her walk with daddy. She was SOO angry at coming in, I just said "Hey wanna take a bath?"

She was naked and running for the tub in seconds.
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I wish someone would give me a quarter every time I was tired and cranky.

The world would be a much happier place, no?

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Whatever works.....
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I also say hey whatever works!!! This on a day when it seemed if one wasn't throwing a fit the other one was....
bathtime also works at myhouse too. Even if they don't really need a bath - I have had some squeeky clean tots these days! :LOL
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:LOL That is great to know! I say, hey, whatever works!!!
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If I had a quarter everytime......
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Oh Ho Ho!! This does work. We just got home from a month long driving vacation. At one point we were in the grocery and my son was getting "vocal" about wanting his snack before we paid. I said "I'll give YOU two dollars [from the movie Lilo and Stich, current favorite] to be quiet until I pay for the snack..." He said ok, I did, and he was. Thank goodness for good old fashioned bribery!! I will remember next time to keep it to a quarter though since that sounds much more economical to me.

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I read your post out loud to my dh and he asked, "is that wrong??" We were cracking up! We've offered ds a shiny new car for high school if he goes to sleep some nights, but cold hard cash never occured to me....I'll have to try it!

One of my friends in college said her parents told her they would get her a horse when she graduated from college as a bribe for something. They thought she would forget, but she remembered and still wanted a horse after she graduated, so they had to get her one.

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Gee, my Dad offered my a TV in highschool if I'd break up with a certain boyfriend. I told him make it a car and I'd do it. But he didn't accept my negotiation.
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I'm blowing chamomile tea out my nose Mamaduck! That is so funny and so cute! "Do you want some money?" I keep getting this visual of the sneaky guy from Sesame Street past who used to walk up to unsuspecting Muppets and inquire, "do you wanna buy an H?"

Thank you for giving me some giggles to bring back to my boys tonight... I admit, I've been a little bit of a grumpy mommy today.

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