My 18.5 month ds has always been an excellent night sleeper. Since he was 8-10 months old, the nighttime routine has always been the same: bathtime, pjs on, read a few books (he chooses), then we put him in his crib, turn off the lamp, and he goes to sleep for 10-11 hours. Even through bad teething times, a hospitalization episode, outpatient surgery, and vacations, he's always been able to resume the routine at home.
2 weeks ago, we took a 2 day trip, staying in a hotel at night. He cried and cried when we tried to put him to sleep, and eventually we had to hold him to sleep. After we got back home, he has fought bedtime mightily since then, despite the return to routine. The only way he'll sleep is in my lap or on my shoulder.
Afternoon naps had previously been a simple matter too... he knew that after lunch, some quiet play and a fresh diaper, it was time for his nap. Like bedtime now, he won't sleep unless he's being held.
We try singing to him or talking gently to him while one of us sits in the rocking chair and while he's in his crib, telling him that I would be there while he fell asleep, but that I would NOT pick him up. But he's pretty stubborn, and eventually, he gets so upset that I think he's beyond the ability to calm himself down, so I pick him up and he falls asleep on my lap/shoulder.
What's going on? Is this a phase? Should I let him cry it out? I miss our old routine, especially since I'm newly pregnant with #2 and am sooo tired these days.