Fiddle-dee- those are great suggestions! I love the way language can be so flexible and still get the point across.
We've had a few discipline problems, but the lentil isn't at the laugh at us stage yet. He just ignores us. Most recently we've been having a lot of trouble with him throwing things. I don't care too much if he throws things, but it's against the rules at his day care, so often he will throw something and then start crying "I threw it!" and get really sad, as though he's waiting to be corrected. Not that they are mean there, I think he just doesn't like getting in trouble. Like his mom. But we did have a situation the other night where the lentil was throwing a drum, which was both too large to be thrown and too fragile. So we asked him not to throw it, and told him that if he did throw it again we would take it away. Predictably, he then threw it, right in front of us, as though this were an interesting new experiment. So I took away the drum, and told him he could have it back in 5 minutes. Then I set the kitchen timer for 5 minutes and gave that to him, so he would know when it was time to have the drum back. When the timer went off, he was already so into the next task that he didn't even care to have the drum back. But I felt like it was a good way for us to reinforce that we do have rules and we will follow through with our rules. Also, having the timer kept me honest, because there are times when I say I will do something then I forget.
We are in the midst of an interesting new development. The lentil hasn't nursed for three days now, and he didn't even ask to nurse this morning. We've been doing parent-led weaning, where we will do everything we can to distract him in the mornings so that even if he asks to nurse we can find a substitute that fulfills his need for intimacy and cuddling. Yesterday he asked once or twice, but was much more interested in his special breakfast of eggs, toast and sausage, than he was in nursing. this morning he just didn't ask. I was shocked. I'm still shocked, because I was expecting him to do more of a taper than this. I was prepared to taper him down for months, if need be. But apparently he is going cold turkey on me, after all my attempts to keep him from going cold turkey. But I'm not going to have a no-more-nunus party just yet, just in case. I wonder how long it will take for my milk to dry up though... my breasts are slightly sore, but not really engorged. Just sort of full. But not really. Hmmmmm.
Ack! There's supposed to be a big storm coming through, which means the lentil won't be at day care this afternoon! Bad news! That's my work time. gah! gotta go, quick, get some work done now.