I've tried telling him that his food belongs on the tray, tapping the tray with my finger while I do this. Guess what? The kid will fling his bowl, spoon, cup, food off the tray and then look at me all serious like while he taps his finger on the tray. Argh! It's hilariously obvious that he doesn't 'get' this strategy. He knows and uses the sign for 'all done', so he isn't trying to tell me that he's ready to get down (though I always ask him when he does this if he's done eating). I've tried telling him that when he throws things off his tray they will stay on the floor, and maybe I need to follow through with this better, but I really want him to eat! I don't want to withhold food as a disciplinary strategy. I don't want mealtimes to be negative, and that's where we're headed...
Help, mamas! I'm still so new to this toddler thing...
This probably seems a little cruel while I am typing it but it was never done as punishment or in a mean way.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
It totally pushed my buttons but I tried everything from not recting to reactng to removing him frm the high chair etc. DS doesn't care that much about food and can always nurse so I figured that I wanted him to eat solids more than nurse so we came up with this solution.
Good luck to you,