Having said that, we haven't ever left the other two alone over night...it's just to hard on US!! the baby is still nursing, so that's another reason.
We firmly believe that the kids go where ever we go...no matter where that is.
its cute If you ask him where mommy works he says Hospital If you ask him where he works he says "nanni's house"
My daughter was not bf'ing or cosleeping for either of those times, and if she had been, I would expect much different results, for the worse.
SAHM to Melinda (Oct '03), Jacob (Aug '05), Alex (Apr '08), and Malcolm (Sept 29, '11)
Originally Posted by kbchavez
I may be opening myself up for attack... but I'm surprised no one else has responded to this... IMO a week away from a 2 1/2 year old is not a good idea. I know your son will be with loved ones and with his daddy, but YOU are his primary caregiver and you still have an ongoing breastfeeding relationship. Perhaps I'm wrong about this as my son isn't yet two and I don't have direct experience in this area, but from my reading on attachment theory, a long absence, especially between the ages of 1 and 3 can do harm to a child, and to your relationship. A week to a 2 1/2 year old is a much longer time than it is to us. I don't want to sound judgemental or critical, but I think you may regret leaving your child for that long, and I feel it would be wrong of me not to say something. A great book to read is "Becoming Attached". I don't remember the author. It describes the despair of hospitalized children that were separated from their mothers. And how when reunited with their parents, they rejected them. Granted, they weren't with familiar family members (and daddy), so it was a much worse situation... I just don't think a 2 1/2 understands why Mommy went away and that she is coming back after a long absence. A few days I think would be OK, but not a week.
Sorry to be such a downer. I understand your desire to be with your sister when she gives birth.
C.- WOHM, CPST Instructor, and all around busy Mama to A.- 02/04, I. 01/07,E. 09/10 and
expecting the surprise of our lives Fall 2012!
Originally Posted by ericswifey27
I appreciate the honest but non judgemental advice, thanks. It is something I am ambivalent about too. And if I don't make a decision soon I will have to pay ridiculous amounts for a ticket as it would be right around Thanksgiving. Sigh. I have a lot of thinking to do. : (
your child is in the hands of people who love him. Call him every night, even if is baby talk. and as I am learning with my DS, children are amazingly resilent. My DS has adapted to me working shift work, and being away from me for days at a time. Will he have huge abandonment issues, will you ruin his life.. its doubtful. Children have gone through so much worse out there, and yet we survive.... l
I told my ex that I would night wean him around 18 months so that it is easier for ds to stay at his house. So I guess I have a few months to go yet.
Originally Posted by kbchavez
I just don't think a 2 1/2 understands why Mommy went away and that she is coming back after a long absence. A few days I think would be OK, but not a week.
DD will be 2 in a few weeks - I've never spent a night away from her.
Jesse (July '09)
Lately, he's been wanting to spend the night with a friend, but I'm not sure if he would be able to stay the whole night.
They love the time together and dp and I get to go out to a late show and then sleep in till 10 or so. DD apparently sleeps better up there (don't get me started) and is always happy when I pick her up.
Steph, DH Jason (1-1-11), DS Owen (10-3-03) and DS Kai (10-13-11)
Not perfect, Just amazing!