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Lately DS (25mos old) has been, well, a handful to say the least! I think that what we have been experiencing extends beyond normal toddler behaviour.
DS absolutely insists on doing EVERYTHING (and I mean absolutely EVERYTHING) himself, his way, with no help. If things do not go his way he has a meltdown. When ds doesn't get what he wants, exactly when he wants it, he has a meltdown. He starts jumping up and down and crying, instantly.
It is very frustrating. There is no in between with him. He is either a happy go lucky kid, or he is kicking and screaming.
I try to talk him through his meltdowns saying things like:
It's ok ___, take a deep breath (then I model some deep breathing), tell mommy what you need. I wan to help you through this. (I should add, that verbalizing his feelings is not a problem in this case. DS is able to speak in full sentences and has been for quite some time)
I can see that you are really frustrated right now. Just keep trying and you can do it.
I am at a loss. DH is at his wits end and is beyond frustrated with DS's behaviour at this time. DH feels like we give DS whatever he wants and this is why he is now behaving this way. I disagree and feel that I am picking my battles.
For example: If DS wants to wear shorts when it is cool out, I let him, rather than fighting with him to get pants on. I feel like he will eventually figure out to dress warmly. It isn't like it is below 0 anymore KWIM?? When it is cool, I let him know that if he is cold he can change into pants, and ask frequently if he would like to do so.
I don't know what else to try. It just seems that DS is extrememly sensisitive and constantly on the verge of melting down. I feel like I am walking on eggshells, trying to avoid having him breakdown. It is not a pleasant feeling.
I have "Raising your Spirited Child" on order from the library. Any other suggestions will be very much appreciated.