YES!!! The scenario you just mentioned about the sofa is the exact type thing I’m talking about. My daughter was lying on the ground crying because I would not get up and give her a toy that was 2 inches from her hand (she can walk/crawl/roll). There are other things like when she wants to open a second yogurt before finishing the first, or doesn’t want to put her shoes on in the garden with thistles and etc.
There are times when I absolutely must be in charge – dah! I think that in my books where they are talking about infants needs being their wants there should be a side note warning parents to watch out for when this begins to change because I missed it by a mile! I’m joking and don’t meant to pass blame to my books but I would have loved some help with this one earlier on.
I’ll just go gradually with these restrictions and hope for the best. I’ll keep you posted.
BTW, I started this post on another thread under “Gentle Discipline”. There were some helpful things in there but it is also interesting to compare the different tone of the thread. This is from my last post:
The suggestion about breaking up chores and etc. has been helpful. I was reluctant to listen to this good advice because I really wanted this to be about changing my daughter’s behavior. It was, after all, bugging me! I also was reluctant to resume doing chores while Aya was in the sling because it’s really hot here and she’s getting big but I tried that also and it’s helping.
I’m finding slowly that short conversations about not having something that she wants are working better than long, deep, “meaningful” – talks about her feelings. Besides this type of talking is not really my style and it makes me feel fake, which is the last thing I want to be with my child.
I say something like, “Oh, I hear you saying you don’t want to go to Ella’s house and would rather go to the playground because you really like going to the playground.” This is helping because sometimes I think that if I don’t give her what she wants than I must not understand what she wants – This is also helping with whining. I then say that we are going to Ella’s even though she doesn’t want to and if that makes her sad or angry than that’s okay but we’re still going and that we will go to the playground another time.
How does this sound? Any additions?
P.s. TV is not an option for us. I would love to be able to use it in moderation but moderation does not work for her so we don’t use it.
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