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Ribbit Rabbit... or however it goes!

Well a lot has been going on here. I guess the highlight of our week is that we're getting our landscaping done this next week! I'm excited, but Lukas is sad because he wants to keep the dirt. I don't blame him somewhat... it has kept him occupied for HOURS in the last year.

Hope you're all well!

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yeah rabbit rabbit back!

We went to a pox party this morning - a family of 3 kids, all of them in one stage of sick or the other. While I'm very hopeful that this will take, since this would be a great time to have the pox (not cooped up in the house - can go outside, play in the kiddie pool, etc), I am hoping that my friend's baby will arrive a bit later than her EDD since we volunteered to take her older son if her MIL isn't already in town. MIL is arriving 3 days before EDD and then staying 3 weeks.

I snooped around today and found that fellow Sept 04 mama Chrissy had a baby boy named Rowan

happy june, xo jen

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Oh - I knew she was due in May and have been meaning to stalk her! Congrats to Chrissy!!!

Samantha - ditto on the hard USA puzzle! I got it out after your post (Robin asked for it, as she has regularly for months). that was last night and it still sits on the table, in pieces!

Heidi - enjoy your landscaping. dirt is fun, but grass is too !

Jen - we're hoping to get in on a pox party this summer too - there's a thread in the Atlanta group. But if Eli gets them, apparently it won't really provide him immunity b/c my immunity is so present in his system - so it'll be a challenge to try to keep them apart for 3 weeks. Impossible, actually.

So, WWYD: My dear SIL, who I love, hated her job pre-baby #3 (he just turned one). Her job changed after her maternity leave with him, and now she really enjoys it. She works a minimum of 3 days a week (12 hour shifts), but usually it's 3 1/2-4 and she's on call so it's often 5 days a week, incuding some weekend days. When she's at work, MIL watches her kids for free. meaning MIL arrives there about 6:30, and BIL picks the kids up at about 6:30 from MIL's house. MIL only has room for 3 kids in the car, so as I've had end-of-pregnancy and post-partum appointments, she's wanted to help me with child care, but really can't unless she stays home, which she has done when she can. MIL is also responsible for her own household and GFIL's, so the 1-2 weekdays she has "off" she is frantically running errands and working on projects, then spends all weekend at GFIL's working the family garden, cleaning his house, ets (as am I at least 1 weekend day). When SIL works ont he weekends, BIL usually brings the kids to GFIL's, where we all watch them. In short, MIL's pretty overwhelmed and tapped out, having offered to watch the kids part-time, but in reality watching them full-time in addition to her MANY other responsibilities. I help her out as much as I can, bringing Robin over so they all entertain each other, running her errands when I can, sharing the responsibilities on the weekends, etc.

SIL has had PPD basically since my first nephew was born (aug. '04), and i know part of it for her is being overwhelmed by her kids. Basically, every time I talk to her on a day she's not working, she's complaining about the kids being so demanding and hard, and how she can't get her house and yard cleaned, she can't run errands, etc. She has her mom come stay with her about one weekend a month so that she can help with the kids and housework. She is always wanting to send the kids away or have someone come help her with them so she can work on her house and yard (they are a mess, it's an ongoing battle - as is my house and yard) This weekend is her birthday, and her birthday present from her mom is that she is taking all 3 kids for the weekend so SIL can do yard/housework. MIL and I offered, as our birthday present to her, to come over with our hubbies and FIL's handyman and do whatever work she tells us to. We were also planning to buy her some of the things she wants for her yard (pea gravel and plants). We would spend the day doing the projects she's been wanting to do. However, SIL doesn't want us to do that - she thinks everyone will have their own opinion and won't want to do it the way she wants it done (a very realistic fear - FIL will not "go with the flow" easily). So she has declined that offer.

What she wants instead is for us to watch her kids more. She wants us to keep them another weekend so she can continue to get the house/yard work done. In the past 2 weeks, we've had 7 days of hard, screaming and crying swimming lessons, with just MIL and I there for all but 2 of those days (2 adults to 5 kids, 3 who are wet and crying, 2 who must be held - no pleasure there. The 2nd day SIL did come, she was obviously frustrated with how hard it was - but we had had the same thing for 7 days). Then last weekend MIL took the oldest 2 and Robin to the lake on Thurs. - CLint and I came that night, and BIl was there by late fri. night, but SIL spent the weekend at home just with the 1 year old and her mom getting things done. Parenting her kids is hard - and to be quite frank, MIL and I treasure every day we have to ourselves. MIL especially needs everyday she isn't watching them to do other things (basically none of which is for herself, or cleaning her house or yard). So we aren't inclined to volunteer to split her kids and watch them for a weekend. Plus, I feel like SIL is volunteering for more and more responsibilities at work and looking for ways to pass on her kids when she isn't working rather than accepting that this is what mothering 3 kids is like and finding a way to be with them and get things done at the same time. I want to support her and if she's asking for support with child care, I don't want to not be there for her. I want to help her with her PPD, and I think getting control over her environment will help with that. But I also think she's running away from her kids, and I don't want to enable that - and I think she would feel very confronted if I said that to her. And part of me is petty and resentful because *I* need child care help sometimes and I don't have it b/c she is monopolizing a resource we used to share. If I wanted to go back to work, I couldn't at this point unless I hired a paid sitter, whereas previously I could count on MIL for a few hours a week. And my house is a disaster, and no one has been able or willing to help me, and that is largely b/c taking care of her family occupies everyone's energy and time. So maybe I'm just being bratty. Would you volunteer to keep the kids, splitting it with MIL, or just get her something else for her birthday? Sorry this is so long - I've just really been trying to mull this out.
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Becca - wow, I am suddenly thanking my lucky stars that my sister never had children and that my mother made it clear she wouldn't do daycare and my MIL lives in Texas! :

It sounds like your SIL is in way over her head. I would say that it appears that some good family counseling or life coaching is in order, but I'm guessing that probably won't happen?! I agree that it sounds like she's running away from her kids. They aren't your kids, or your MIL's kids... they're her kids. And your MIL needs to draw up a plan that works for her and your SIL and stick to it. If your SIL wants to work so much, she needs to find a sitter and pay her/him. And needs to figure out why she doesn't want to spend time with her kids.

Her yard is never going to be perfect and her house never perfectly clean if she has 3 kids in the house. Either she's got to let this ideal of perfection go or she's got to get Merry Maids or someone in her house to clean and a company to do her yard.

Sorry dear sounds yucky to deal with...

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Becca: I'd get her a Maid-for-a-Day! The maid can get the house to presentable and maybe she won't have such a hard time maintaining it after that.

I don't think it's fair to expect others to raise one's own children. Yes, every parent needs a break, BUT you have two children and your MIL is stretched far too thin it sounds like. It's not really right for SIL to take advantage of either of you.

If PPD is an issue, maybe getting her a bottle of B Vitamins, some 5-HTP, or some 200 mg of Zen might help (if she'd take them). Even some Vitex should regulate her hormones and maybe help things to starighten out.

Regardless, to you. I hope the situation resolves itself easily!

Jen: I'm so jealous you got to go to a pox party! The pox are spreading like wildfire right now in Chicago, but I haven't been able to make it to any of the parties. I only read email at night, so the parties are all booked before I get a chance to read about them. Maybe E will catch them wild...

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Oh Congrats to Chrissy! I admit that I went snooping a week or so ago to see if there was any news.

Becca, sorry for the strain that your SIL is putting on your family. I really liked Samantha's idea of hiring a maid for the day for her.

Samantha, I didn't realize that we lived in the same state, granted we're still a couple hours away. There have been a couple of pox cases around here, but I've had my hands full and couldn't imagine adding chicken pox to the mix. Maybe we'll be able to try the next round?

Things started to get better with Jackson last week, but we screwed it up by going to visit the IL in Kentucky last weekend. So we had another week of very little sleep and a grumpy 2 yo. Last night went well though, so maybe there's a chance thing will again improve this coming week, I hope.

Gotta go help the boys frost a cake for daddy's birthday.

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found the thread!

becca- if she actually WANTS to get better then she needs to address the PPD but maybe its not really PPD and she just FEELS depressed because she doesn't know what the heck to do. i would say that she is going to have to either face up and get help for the PPD or needs to take on the responsibility that she brought into the world.
i also agree that if she is working then she can pay for a weekly maid service to help with chores. as for MIL babysitting she should start getting paid for the hours she didn't want to do or find a mothers helper to help MIL.

i also just want to say that i feel jelous that either of you has any help at all so treat the poor woman to some nice stuff or massages or her own maid!
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Haven't been around in awhile, and I'll have to post later, but I just wanted to sub and say hi and here's a recent photo of Alex..


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Becca ~ Isn't it the weirdest thing to witness one family member being given extra help when you feel like ... "um, hey I could use some help too, but you don't see me whining about it.." I can totally feel for you on this one! It's not like you are unwilling, unloving or unable to help... it's just getting out of hand. It's hard when you can see it, but can't really do anything about it without coming off like a hard ass. No one wants to be the one to say she's being unfair and needs to "deal with it". I remember when my younger sister was going through the worst of her divorce/seperation last summer... I got so freaking tired of hearing about her drama and her needs and all the codling and enabling that my mom was indulging herself in... granted, she needed help, but man did it get old watching that going on, while I was in my last trimester dealing with a very demanding 2 year old! Anyway, good luck becca, stay strong!

Speaking of sisters, mine is visiting from Georgia with all 3 kids and hubby. It's been fun, but very crazy busy and loud. 6 children under age 6!!!! Whowsa!

Jerome just arrived with lunch, so I'm gonna scoot
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Thanks for the advice and feedback. I kinda needed a reality to check to see if I'm just projecting, or if it really is too much to ask. My MIL is a saint, with not a trace of martyrism. As a result, everyone depends on/takes adavantage of her. She'll never complain or say a peep and all she asks is that she get one saturday a month to go to the antique market - literally every other minute of her life is spent taking care of someone else. I agree that she needs to set some firmer limits, but she just won't. I think she really appreciates that I set limits for her (like me telling my youngest BIL to make the bed when he comes home to visit - she would never tell him to, but hates having to do it for him. I can't imagine not just telling him to do it himself - my mother stopped making our beds in elementary school). SO I think my hesitation on this request from SIL made it easier for her to say no too - so we are declining. Instead, I bought SIL alfalfa tablets for energy and fish oil capsules to help with the PPD (she's on anti-depressants also, but not seeing the effectiveness yet - a whole other issue) and a book by the FlyLady. It's about managing your clutter and whipping your house into shape in a way that is manageable with kids and work. And I'm going to write her a long letter about some of these issues and concerns. Basically, that if she's waiting to work on herself until after her house is clean, she'll be waiting forever. She's got to figure out how to prioritize her time, and get things done without sending the kids away.

Low motivation really is one of the most debilitating factors of depression - even if you know you would feel better if you did X, you just can't bring yourself to *do* it, to make the time and summon the energy and do it. I've been there, so I know how hard it is - but now that I'm NOT there, and I see so clearly how it's better to just do what you need to do to take better care of yourself, it's hard to not want to kick her in the butt and get her moving! There's no excuse for wallowing in misery when simple things help you feel better - but when you are in the midst of a depression, you just can't see the way out. Anywho, this is a whole other discussion as well. I feel like I really dodged the PPD bullet this time around after struggling hard after Robin's birth. I've been taking 1000mg of EPO a day an wonder how much that has to do with it. Goodness knows being home alone with the 2 kids all week and no help, dealing with midwife abandonment, my mom making me nuts - I sure thought I'd be a gonner this time.

Stacy - Alex looks so grown up in that picture - I think it's the "big kid" haircut. Very cute!

Speaking of cute, Chrissy posted pix on her birth announcement thread in her DDC, and Noah and Lilah and the new baby are all terribly cute.

Danielle- you are *so* right - MIL deserves to be pampered well, but she won't take any of it. She got a real thrill from me taking her to the farmer's market and thrift shop last week But her birthday is coming up soon...

Anna - sounds like a houseful of fun! tell Mary hi from me. Hope you guys get some downtime too - the overstimulation happens fast.

Pam - hope you guys get back on track quickly. Hugs.

Gotta run - lots to do before we "move" to Atlatna tomorrow!
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Becca: I'd get her a Maid-for-a-Day! The maid can get the house to presentable and maybe she won't have such a hard time maintaining it after that.

I don't think it's fair to expect others to raise one's own children. Yes, every parent needs a break, BUT you have two children and your MIL is stretched far too thin it sounds like. It's not really right for SIL to take advantage of either of you.

If PPD is an issue, maybe getting her a bottle of B Vitamins, some 5-HTP, or some 200 mg of Zen might help (if she'd take them). Even some Vitex should regulate her hormones and maybe help things to starighten out.

Regardless, to you. I hope the situation resolves itself easily!

Jen: I'm so jealous you got to go to a pox party! The pox are spreading like wildfire right now in Chicago, but I haven't been able to make it to any of the parties. I only read email at night, so the parties are all booked before I get a chance to read about them. Maybe E will catch them wild...
: I think that's great advice, Samantha.

Becca, all I can say is 'whew!' I got tired just reading your post. Your family must have SO much energy. And don't you have a new baby?!! :

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Yesterday morning ds woke up with a wet diaper and then his very next pee he said it was hurting to pee. and his penis was swollen. we went through the whole day without doing to much about it but midafternoon i mentioned to dh that we might have to go to the er. i decided to call our nurse on call first but she said that he needed to be seen in the next 24 hours so we went to urgent care (oh my god its so much better than the er on a saterday!!) at 8 last night and the tiny bit of pee we were able to collect (most of it leaked out of the bag) the dr. said that it was a uti but "boys don't get uti's!" (um....yes they do its just more rare!). anyways he's doing a culture to see if its a true uti but we have a Rx for meds i need to get filled today. we also have to go to our PCP by tues/wed. ds seems to be doing much better though. his last pee of the night last night didn't hurt and the swelling is down. i did read online (quickly) that one type of uti in boys says that there may be no symptoms but could be discharge from the penis....which he did have a few weeks ago. i am not sure what to think. dh nor i have ever had a uti and its completely new to us!
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Danielle we had something like this happen with T and what he actually had was a strep or staph infection between the foreskin and the glans. One of our family doc's practice partners said that this actually is very common in boys who are intact... well not very common, but it's the male equivalent of a vaginal yeast infection with regards to frequency and urgency. With the first one (he's actually had 2 now and they were both related to sitting too long in the car seat in a wet diaper) I took him to the ER and we waited 3 hours to fight with a doctor about retracting him and took home antibiotics... the 2nd time I tried homeopathic arsenicum album which is the "foreskin remedy" and it was gone the next day. We also did a lot of bare-bottom time.

What the doc told us is that when boys play with their foreskins they can sometimes cause some natural tearing of connective tissues between foreskin and glans. This is totally normal and doesn't even hurt but can leave the area more susceptible to infection. It could be that some of this got into your son's pee... or it could be that he has a UTI. There's little way of knowing unless they catheterize him, really...

Hope all is better soon! jen

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Oh, wow, Danielle- HUGS! I sure hope ds is feeling better soon!

Thank you Jen, for the sage advice on how to handle that sort of situation.... I am hoping Carl will be one of those intact boys who never has a problem BUT I always keep my ears open for what to do if a issue does arise.

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Oh, wow, Danielle- HUGS! I sure hope ds is feeling better soon!

Thank you Jen, for the sage advice on how to handle that sort of situation.... I am hoping Carl will be one of those intact boys who never has a problem BUT I always keep my ears open for what to do if a issue does arise.
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Danielle we had something like this happen with T and what he actually had was a strep or staph infection between the foreskin and the glans. One of our family doc's practice partners said that this actually is very common in boys who are intact... well not very common, but it's the male equivalent of a vaginal yeast infection with regards to frequency and urgency. With the first one (he's actually had 2 now and they were both related to sitting too long in the car seat in a wet diaper) I took him to the ER and we waited 3 hours to fight with a doctor about retracting him and took home antibiotics... the 2nd time I tried homeopathic arsenicum album which is the "foreskin remedy" and it was gone the next day. We also did a lot of bare-bottom time.

What the doc told us is that when boys play with their foreskins they can sometimes cause some natural tearing of connective tissues between foreskin and glans. This is totally normal and doesn't even hurt but can leave the area more susceptible to infection. It could be that some of this got into your son's pee... or it could be that he has a UTI. There's little way of knowing unless they catheterize him, really...

Hope all is better soon! jen
ds is feeling a lot better. though its not really the meds thats doing it. he just had the one day where it was painful. i will hopefully be able to find out what it really is when we go to the dr. but not sure when that will happen. i know now that the discharge is not normal and will pay attention to that. thanks for the info.
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Hello everyone! Happy June 4th to all! One of my dearest friends just had her baby girl today and I am so happy! Baby was 7 lbs 5 oz, waterbirth, and she pushed for 7 minutes! No name yet, though.

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hi you guys!!! it is so nice to be stalked by you sweet september mamas!

i was so excited to see the thread so short, thinking i'd be able to catch up but i still can't. i will though. i miss you guys.

life with 3 is CRAZY! my mom was here for the past 8 days but she just left this morning. not sure how we'll manage, but we will i am sure.

well, i just wanted to stop in to say hi and get subscribed to the thread.

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Big congrats to Samantha's friend.... It's always nice to hear about our friends who have great births.

And welcome Rowan! I LOVE that name...

Well, we finally got some rain and my task this afternoon is to mow the yard. Then finish stuffing my plants into the garden. I am so late getting things into the ground!:

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Congratulations Chrissy!

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Hi everyone! Congrats Chrissy!!

Things are good here except for the awful MIL stuff going on. Ugh. It's so sad. My MIL is pretty much always passive aggressive, rude and sometimes even mean. To me, but mostly to DH. Well, to make a long story short, she had been talking about having some kind of birthday thing for Tony for his birthday which was the 3rd. So she suggested maybe going swimming at the pool and having a picnic. We said great, that sounds like lots of fun. So I told her that we'd tell her when would be best -- and a couple days later DH told her that Sunday (his birthday) or Monday would be fine for us... I mean, we're totally flexible, right? So we go down to homer for my dad's birthday and we come back on Saturday. DH talks to his mom and she's really cold, and says that she's busy tomorrow (Sunday) so they can't go swimming, but she is going to have a Sunday dinner that we can come to
"if we want to." Remember, Sunday is his birthday... OK, so he's like... hmmm... OK. Anyway, Sunday rolls around and MIL calls to ask DH if we can get dessert (!) and if he could help do the dishes. He told me this and I was like WHAT?? What mom asks her son to pick up the dessert on his birthday AND do the dishes?? So I was pissed before we even got there, but then it just got worse. Neither of his parents said happy birthday. Neither of them gave him a hug. No present. They had two dinner guests that didn't even know it was his birthday. Anyway, I was so angry. I did the dishes -- like my husband is going to do the dishes on his birthday... sheesh.

OK, that turned into a long story. But I emailed her the next morning and asked her what we had done to make her do this. Obviously she was mad about something and in a totally passive aggressive way decided to "get back" at DH, or punish him or something, for I don't know what. The only thing I can think is that she was mad that we didn't pick an exact day and time to go swimming. ? I have no clue. But how sad to treat someone that way. I felt horrible for DH... I still do. I've had a little email communication with her where I expressed my anger and my complete confusion about the whole thing.

Ugh, it's just so sad, you know? And DH is so used to being treated like sh*t by his mom that he doesn't even know how or want to stand up for himself.... sigh... What would you guys do in this situation?

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Augs; 1. call her on her behavior (which you did) 2. try to open up communication so that she can't be so passive-agressive 3. set up situations that you have a little more control over 4. be sweet to Tony by refraining from saying 'your d*mn mother is a nutcase!'

That's what I've learned in the 10 years of dealing with my MIL!

PS: and 5. have a glass of wine pre or post encounter to keep your morale up!

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4. be sweet to Tony by refraining from saying 'your d*mn mother is a nutcase!'

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Hi, mamas! I haven't read every word but have at least skimmed.

Chrissy, I really do just adore the name Rowan! It is the one boys name that keeps coming to mind for me, should this next one be a boy. I have NO idea what we'll actually do, but I love it! Hope things begin to settle down a bit for you with the 3!

dhinderliter, my DS woke up one night to go potty (which he never does anymore) and was just sobbing and sobbing. In fact, he woke twice, and began to complain of pain when urinating. He was burning hot and so I feared UTI. Symptoms waxed and waned (and he started complaining of lower back/flank pain) and by that evening we were at the ER. Amazingly enough, there was no clear indication of an infection! But the doc I talked to (on call pedi, earlier in the day) thought it highly unlikely that a boy of 2.5yrs who had NEVER had a problem before would suddenly develop one. He said something to the effect of, "if there's a problem with the plumbing, it'll show up a lot earlier than this." I'm pretty sure that DS's high fever was making the urine hot and therefore felt really weird... Did your DS have a fever? What all did they find in the urine? DS's urinalysis showed "3" white blood cells, so not enough to cause us much concern! And the cultures turned up nothing. : His fever broke that night and only returned briefly the next night (and then his brother got it!). Hope your little guy is feeling much better soon, whatever it is!

We're all doing well here - okay, I have had horrible sinus headaches for days : but otherwise doing fine! We're planning two big trips this summer - one with the whole family and one just DH and I. I just can't believe how FAST this summer will go by!

I'm super excited because on our road trip, I get to go to a Hanna outlet! We'll be going about 20 miles out of the way, but when we've already driven 1500, what's that matter? It's the one in Indiana (a bit east of Chicago) and I can't wait!! My only experience with outlets to date has been Jen's kindness in shopping for me a couple of times! Can't wait to go try it for myself.

Am I the last one to get my Sept baby swim lessons? I'm currently on four wait lists for swim lessons in two weeks, otherwise we have to wait until August (since we're gone in July). I'm really hoping and praying we can get in to this upcoming session so that the boys will be water-savvy before we take our trip (and there will be a pool there at my aunt's house). Not to mention that our pool will finally be in good shape and we can swim in here in the next few days! (After $$$$ in repairs and a new pump and...eek!) I know pretty much all of my 5yo's friends are already swimming.. just wondering about the 2yos!

Take care, mamas!

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i am supposed to take ds to the doc to get some results and another checkup this week but i have an appt for them both next friday so i don't know if i should just take him anyways or just wait. he doens't complain and he didn't have a fever (still doens't) i am just giving him the meds. i also don't have a car right now (i got into my first car accident on sunday and my car is at the shop ) but dh is on mids this week so he could take us to the doc but then i actually have to get an appt for today or tomorrow! :

ds is not in swimming lessons although we aren't really going to any pools yet. he would also FREAK OUT if I had him take swimming lessons right now. he is still very jittery when left with strangers (or familier family even!) We haven't been in a "real" pool since I have 2 of them and I can't really just leave dd in a stroller or something. She likes the water too! I know *I* would LOVE to go swimming though...its been a very long time!
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ok, i'm caught up. i'm going to put (sleeping) rowan next to me on the sofa and hope he stays asleep. we'll see....

becca, wow! your mil sounds wonderful. i am seriously jealous, though obviously not jealous of the sil situation. i think what you did sounds perfect. let us know how she handles it. so, are you guys not going back to china?

jen, so how long til you know if tristan got the pox? i had hoped noah would get them but he hasn't. he even had a friend who got them from the vax and noah still didn't get them! we do vax but on a delayed and stretched out schedule. he has to have the vax for Kindergarten though and so it looks like he'll end up having to get it.

anna, hope you had a fun visit with your sister and fam!

danielle, i'm glad your little guy is feeling better! we had a possible uti incident when noah was 10 mos old or so. he had a fever (102 or so?) with no other symptoms so we took him to the ped b/c he was miserable. they thought it could be a uti so they wanted a urine specimen. oh my gosh, was it horrible! the nurse was soooooo incompetent and sooooooo rude! she couldn't get the catheter in and she said something along the lines of "if he was circumsized i wouldn't have any problem!" i was FURIOUS!!! the ped finally came in and did it. the culture came back + BUT the ped said that it might not have been a clean sample, i think b/c he wasn't wearing gloves? they started noah on abx but then he had a reaction to them so we stopped them. they sent us to a specialist for an u/s to see if his plumbing was screwy. it wasn't. they also wanted us to do some kind of horrible sounding procedure. i can't recall the details (it was almost 5 years ago) but it really wasn't going to be any fun for my little guy. since the u/s was fine we skipped it. he's 5.5 now and we've never had another issue. anyway, sorry for the long story.

augustine, oh my gosh your mil is awful!!! mine is too but she is mean to ME instead of dh. i'm so glad that you stuck up for him and didn't let him do dishes. that passive aggressive stuff is the worst b/c sometimes it is so hard to know how to call them on it. you did good though. what was her response?

heather, are you guys going to find out the sex of this babe? we didn't (did with noah, not with lilah or rowan), but i really felt like i knew he was a boy. and it's a good thing he is b/c we didn't have a girl's name picked out. how exciting to get to go to a hanna outlet!! i am jealous! lilah has sort of had swimming lessons. we went to the pool a ton last summer and she loves the water. this winter she and i signed up for mommy and me swimming lessons and the y but i think we only went twice. they weren't very good and the time wasn't good for us. i am going to sign her up this summer. she is fearless and thinks she can swim. we'll probably be at the pool a lot this summer too and i bet she'll be able to swim by the end of the summer.

so i think we are going to survive as a family of 5! rowan is sooooo sweet and laid back and noah and lilah LOVE him to pieces- almost literally .

wow, rowan is still sleeping next to me. i guess i should use this time to do some dishes. it feels good to be caught up with this thread though. yay me!

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I'm super excited because on our road trip, I get to go to a Hanna outlet! We'll be going about 20 miles out of the way, but when we've already driven 1500, what's that matter? It's the one in Indiana (a bit east of Chicago) and I can't wait!! My only experience with outlets to date has been Jen's kindness in shopping for me a couple of times! Can't wait to go try it for myself.
Is this in Michigan City? I live in Indiana (right next to Chicago) and this is the only outlet I can think of! I didn't know there was a Hanna store there! I want to say it's called Lighthouse Place, but I could be : . I haven't been there since I was in high school, but back then they had a Benetton store and I got the most delicious, um, hootchie shirt for less than $10. Also, my brother (about 12 at the time) got a mouse in Michigan City (at the regular mall), so he named him MC Squeaky. When the mouse got sick, it cost more money to put him to sleep than it did to buy him in the first place.

Are you taking the Toll Road or 80/94?

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heather, are you guys going to find out the sex of this babe? we didn't (did with noah, not with lilah or rowan), but i really felt like i knew he was a boy. and it's a good thing he is b/c we didn't have a girl's name picked out. how exciting to get to go to a hanna outlet!! i am jealous! lilah has sort of had swimming lessons. we went to the pool a ton last summer and she loves the water. this winter she and i signed up for mommy and me swimming lessons and the y but i think we only went twice. they weren't very good and the time wasn't good for us. i am going to sign her up this summer. she is fearless and thinks she can swim. we'll probably be at the pool a lot this summer too and i bet she'll be able to swim by the end of the summer.
We are NOT finding out baby's sex. I really feel like it's a girl and have had numerous dreams (from the beginning) that it's a girl. The boys are CONVINCED it is a girl, too!! I know they'll be bummed if it's a boy, after all, but I'm hoping if that does happen that it will be eased by the fact that they'll have the baby to see and hold and cuddle with. I hope, anyway! But I'm buying a bit of girlie stuff here and there (again!) but also trying to be prepared with gender neutral for the first few weeks. We're also in a similar spot with having NO boys names! So hoping it's a girl, 'cause my boys have finally decided they LOVE the girls' name I had picked out for Iain and still love. DH is kinda iffy on it but I think he'll go for it when the time comes. I've told him we can have 2-3 names picked and see what fits best, but I'm 99.9% sure this baby will go by the name I've picked.

I'm grateful that Iain is more timid with the water! But we were at friends' house on Sunday and DH had a turn watching them. They were both in swimming vests and knew to stay near the side of the pool and on the steps. Iain got more brave and "climbed" around the side of the pool with Dh right there, which was great. But later he was on the stairs and fell off! DH finally grabbed him but he was sputtering and crying, trying to keep his face out of the water. And Gabriel got TOO brave at one point and swam away from the side, then couldn't get back, so he freaked out. (Of course that was JUST as I left and turned it over to DH.) So... swimming lessons it is! We've actually had 5 drownings in 5 days here in Houston, so it's all hitting home pretty hard how important it is!

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Is this in Michigan City? I live in Indiana (right next to Chicago) and this is the only outlet I can think of! I didn't know there was a Hanna store there! I want to say it's called Lighthouse Place, but I could be : . I haven't been there since I was in high school, but back then they had a Benetton store and I got the most delicious, um, hootchie shirt for less than $10. Also, my brother (about 12 at the time) got a mouse in Michigan City (at the regular mall), so he named him MC Squeaky. When the mouse got sick, it cost more money to put him to sleep than it did to buy him in the first place.

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Yes, it is!! I found it listed on the Hanna website AND on the site for the outlets (can't remember the name - something like that, tho!). I dunno how we'll go - DH has to look at it. We're coming up from Cincinnati, through Indianapolis, and DH says we're taking whichever one goes closer. He think it's 94, but I dunno! I always map everything before we go and then play navigator. We'll wave to you as we head back towards Chicago!

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

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I dunno how we'll go - DH has to look at it. We're coming up from Cincinnati, through Indianapolis, and DH says we're taking whichever one goes closer. He think it's 94, but I dunno! I always map everything before we go and then play navigator. We'll wave to you as we head back towards Chicago!
right when you see the sign that says *Hammond*!

Have a great and safe trip!

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We've actually had 5 drownings in 5 days here in Houston, so it's all hitting home pretty hard how important it is!



Gotta run... I want to respond but I've promised Cecilia a trip to Barnes and Noble today; we get 40% off for 'employee appreciation days'. Thanks mom!

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