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Old 06-26-2007, 01:09 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Maybe it's the heat of the summer, or the fact that I am 28 weeks pregnant or something but my 2 boys(ages 3(37m) and 22 months) have been driving each other nuts lately. Part of me doesn't know whether or not to step in or let them resolve things on their own. I grew up as an only child, so all the sibling stuff is still new to me.

How do you all deal with "normal" sibling behavior? What is "normal" sibling behavior anyways?

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Judging by my relationship with my younger brother "normal" sibling behavior consists of a lot of fighting, teasing and aggravating one another, and loudly complaining about how much you hate your sibling.

But then one day you wake up and realize your sib's a really cool guy, and he turns out to be one of your best friends. So when your kids are driving you batty with the back-and-forth, remember what a gift they (and you) will have in the future. Hang in there, mama!
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I'd like a reminder too as two of my kidlets have been scrapping all morning off and on today...

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I need a reminder too. This is the thing that can cause me to lose my cool.
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I must have the most normal kids in America, !

It seems to cycle. Sometimes, they're the best of friends and play together so nicely. Other times, I want to run away.

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I agree with the others; normal sibling behavior is what your two kiddos are doing right now! Of course, that doesn't make it any easier on mama. My oldest two are 12 and 9 and still drive each other crazy.

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I would like to HIGHLY recommend the book Siblings Without Rivalry I have found it to be a priceless resource in my parenting.
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So, I need to get that book. My brother and I fought constantly while growing up, and still drive each other crazy at times. Next to dh, though, he is my best friend, and the one I call when dh fails at making something better. He understands me, and always knows which buttons to push (or not to, depending on his mood ). He moved away 1.5 years ago, and although we talk on the phone a couple times a week, we miss each other dearly. We were the worst and the best friends growing up, and although I don't want the youth battles for my 2, I hope they are as close in adulthood as my brother and I are!
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So, I need to get that book. My brother and I fought constantly while growing up, and still drive each other crazy at times. Next to dh, though, he is my best friend, and the one I call when dh fails at making something better. He understands me, and always knows which buttons to push (or not to, depending on his mood ). He moved away 1.5 years ago, and although we talk on the phone a couple times a week, we miss each other dearly. We were the worst and the best friends growing up, and although I don't want the youth battles for my 2, I hope they are as close in adulthood as my brother and I are!
I hear you, and agree that the book title conjurs up images of perfect sibs sitting around singing kumbaya or something. That is not the goal in the book (or in life, I imagine). It just gives powerful insight (IMO) to things parents sometimes forget when we're in the heat of sibling struggles. It has helped me respond better and has helped meet the needs of my older DD that I was missing because I was so busy trying to keep her from being cruel to my younger DD. IT really made a BIG impact upon my family (in a positive way).

My brother and I have always been close. My sister and I are close now but we had a terrible relationship as kids/adolescents/young adults. I think that I could have stood to have avoided that part of our relationship, and I know that my parents could have.
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