HIYA!!! First off,
And, I have to tell you that I was slightly moved by your post. You sound excatly like how I feel (if that makes any sense!!). For example:
|Sometimes he goes to a play group and the group is very organized with the reading time, snack time etc..he has a hard time sitting still. While the other children are sitting down to snack time, he wants to be up wandering around checking stuff out
This is my little guy to a tee. We go to play group and for 'circle time' all the kids are expected to sit on their parents/caregivers lap and sing the songs and mimic the actions........well, my son is most happy dancing (and by dancing I mean spinning in a circle) in the middle of the circle. I get some glances from other parents and hear the occassional "wow. he's really busy" or "gee, he's got a lot of energy, hey?" I have learned to ignore it. My ds is wonderful and happy and full of life, and it's my job to nuture that; not try and mold him into a sheep.
|He is very affectionate and anywhere we go, he runs up to the other kids trying to hug them. Alot of the kids get freaked out and take off. I feel badly that I don't have him around other children all the time, and we are making an effort in that way. I just wanted to hear how others are dealing with this 'age'..and what to expect.
again, my little guy!!! He LOVES other children. He always goes for the bigger kids at the park and tries to play with them, and they usually just run away from him
but that doesn't stop him from trying!
As far as what to expect, I think that's the best question you can ask. Set out your expectations before you begin a task. ie ~ we're going to play group, I don't expect ds to sit still for certian activites. or ~ we're going to the park and will need to cross the road, I expect ds to hold my hand.
I have found that toddlers love routine (no matter how much they fight it!) and sticking to a daily routine will help to give your ds stability.
Also, don't feel bad about not having him around other children constantly. Children are very adaptable and when the time comes for him to socialize, he'll do so in his own way.
A key thing to remember is that your son is creating his own experiences right now. As parents it very easy to want to control our childs experiences (especially at this age), in the sense that you may not take him to activities such as playgroups or parks to 'sheild' him from people making comments or kids pushing him away. That's not our job as parents. This has been the hardest lesson for me to learn, and one I struggle with every day. Your child will experience all these events differently than you see happening, and it's that experience that he'll learn from.
I've gone on quite a bit, but I just really wanted you to know that you're not alone and that there are LOADS of us mothers out there with 2.5 year old sons, shaking our heads and wondering when it's all going to end!
Take care, and again