My niece (C) is 6 weeks older than my son (B). They are both turning 3. Hr parents are VERY mainstream, even conservative, while we are liberal and AP. Not a problem...they are family and we love them.
So we took my niece Sunday for the day....lunch, shopping for her to pick out her birthday gift from us, etc. She had on Dora shoes that my DH commented on. She got very sad and said, "I want Diego shoes" so DH said, "I'll buy you some Diego shoes if you want!" to which C replied, "I cant. Mummy said no because Diego is only for boys".
At lunch we had 2 sippy cups, one happened to be pink and one happened to be green. B asked for the pink one, which we gave him. C screeched, "he cant have pink! Pink is for girls! You're not a GIRL, B, are you?". She was really beside herself. First thing when we brought her home, she told her mother, "B wanted a PINK CUP!" to which her mother replied, "Pink is for girls, B! You're not a girl. You better not tell your daddy you wnted a pink cup!"
Luckily, DH was right there and said in his goofy voice to B, 'It's okay. You can have any color you want".
Basically this went on all day. In the toy store the poor girl wanted a Diego doll and then said, "Noooooo. My mummy and daddy will not like it. Maybe we should get it for RJ! (her brother)".
So, now my B has been saying stuff about pink is for girls, he's not a girl, etc. Everything we see...."Is that for girls or for boys?". It makes me angry. YES, he would figure out these gender biases exist eventually but I cant believe FAMILY is pushing this on him.
I doubt it's worth discussing with them. I tried to give them gentle, persuasive facts about circumcision but they still went ahead because, "that's gross" and "he needs to look like his father" (which, by that logic, means my son needs rhinoplasty because he has an original nose).
Sorry, that was OT.
But MAN, I am so annoyed. I'm just hoping someone can share my annoyance and maybe throw some, "aaawww, poor mama....they're evil, horrible people" in for good measure.
Mama To 3 Boys: an androgynous lump of emo mush who wears eyeliner and nail polish, an energetic athlete with a Norman Rockwell face, and a toddler who loves trains, trucks and his sparkly purple watch with flowers.