My 17 month old daughter says more than mommy and daddy and she suffered brain damage at birth seen on CT scans and MRIs (from lack of oxygen when my uterus ruptured).
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My older DD was 2.5 and still not talking. We got a speech therapist, but only once a month and only for 6 months. She started talking, but I think it was almost more because of listening to us tell the lady how frustrated we were! Her receptive language skills were WAY above her expressive skills. Now people always remark on her advanced grasp of grammar, her clear diction, and her sophisticated vocabulary. (She's 4.)
This also happened with my sister who didn't talk until she was almost 3 but is very very bright and mature and made up for lost time -- and then some -- very quickly. She gets top marks across the board at a very challenging private school and always has.
My younger DD is 2.25 and is just barely starting to talk (ball, bear, apple, turkey, Dora, lol). If I could do it over with my older girl I totally wouldn't bother with the therapy. The lady was annoying and didn't listen to what I had to say about DDs "slow to warm up" personality. She would thrust her face in DD's face and say good morning at the top of her lungs in a fakey-wakey way. Hello, she's not hard of hearing, she just isn't talking yet!
A hearing test would be good to rule that out. We did a formal test with DD1 and an informal one with DD2 when a friend pointed out that she doesn't respond to her name consistently. Our test was as follows:
(DD's back is turned.)
Turns and comes running!
So yes, she can hear, she just has superior powers of ignoring. And we haven't done anything special to encourage her to talk. She is just on her own schedule. Starting a few weeks ago she is adding 1 or 2 words a day.
There is a time to worry, and IMO you are far from that time, especially if your kid has a few words and a few signs. One thing that the speech therapist tried to get us to do was show DD that language gets results. We were sick of pointing and grunting and whining. So we'd put her at the top of the slide and say "1,2,3 whee!" Every time. After a while we'd pause after the 1,2,3 and see if she'd say whee herself. Just little stuff like that. She wasn't saying withhold food until she asks for it by name, just saying that it illustrates the power of language for them that if they say X then Y happens.
My 16 month old (almost 17 months) doesn't talk at all, he jabbers, says Dadda, uh-o, momma, and a handfull of signs. Is this normal? It seems like everything I read says they should be talking way more. I stay home with him and talk and interact with him all day long. With all his other developmental milestones he's been on time.
I do early intervention with children with developmental and language delays. I would not be concerned yet at 16 mo. If by 18-20 he does not have a more developed vocabulary, I would check it out. In the meantime, give him lots of modeling of clear vocab that is important to him, and when he communicates nonverbally (or verbally without words), make sure that you "talk for him" and say what he would say if he could talk. This models the language and helps him to learn it even if he's not ready to say it.
I wasn't so worried about it until I picked up one of my baby books today and read up on where he "should" be, according to Dr. Sears is speaking 10-20 words a day and making 2 word sentences. But of coarse, I know my baby, and I've never felt like there was anything wrong until reading that. haha... funny.
I'm sure he'll pick up talking more when he's ready. Until then, he really does a good job with communicating in other ways.
VijayOwens- Thanks for the ideas on showing them that language gets rewards, some good ideas to try.
There are kids who are simply late talkers, don't get me wrong. But not talking is a potential indicator of something more serious going on developmentally, and it's not to be taken lightly. A child who is 3 months behind at 2 could be 10 months behind at 3, and several years behind by 4. A three month 'lag' is fairly easy to make up. A 2 year one is not. It puts a child at a disadvantage socially, emotionally and academically.
To the OP: Your son has a handful of words, plus probably a few that you didn't count (did you count sound effects? they count!) So, he's on the low end right now, but he does have some words.
At this age, you're more interested in general communication -- does he respond when you talk to him? Does he respond to his name? Does he gesture (point? clap? lift his arms up to be held?). Does he point out interesting things or does he only point/gesture when he wants something? Can he follow when you point to something?
Is he learning new words? Very often at this age, new words are learned very slowly - like 2-3 a month. Many kids then go through a spurt of new words sometime between 18 and 22 months.
I'd keep an eye on his words. Keep a log of the ones you hear. If he's not learning any new ones by 18 months, I'd have him assessed. If he's steadily learning some new ones, I'd relax.
As I was saying to my DH earlier, I don't know many moms with kids DS's age so I have really nothing to compare to other than posting on here, what I read in my books, and what my friends recall from their children's past. I know that can be hard just from me trying to recall things like when DS first sat up without reading my bb journal.
If you're worried then I'd suggest checking it out to see what you can do to encourage your child. But please DON'T feel that your child is behind just because they're not at the exact same place as some other children.
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Also, my nephew turned two in July and barely says anything. His comprehension is great though, beyond what I've seen in many 2-year-olds. He'll talk when he's ready too.
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I think at this age as long as his hearing is okay, I wouldn't stress over it at all. Keep going with the sign language, so he's able to communicate as much as possible, and don't worry. Verbal ability at this age is very diverse.
I would not worry about it, children develop at different speeds. I heard it can also make a difference if he was an early walker, than the body used all the energy to go into the gross motor skill development and the speech will start a bit later and vice versa. Not sure if that is true though, in any case do not worry about it.
I personally think that he is just too busy doing another stuff and it is just his personality that he doesn't want to talk. But I am happy that he is starting to say words.
So I don't know how long it takes to get into to speech but maybe start looking into it.
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