Hi. Our 2 1/2 yr old can HOLD IT IN ... it has been going on for almost a year on and off. We too have tried everything and have also been to a naturopath who prescribed flower essenses. For almost 3 weeks once on the FE, she had totally normal, no issue, no holding it in, poop. we thought we were seeing the light at the end the tunnel....but it's happening again.
then our naturopath told us that sometimes, after being on a flower essense, the symtoms actually get a bit worse then better, then resolved. so, we're not giving up in the FE's yet. we also give her flax oil and cod liver oil every morning and as of yet, have not given her any laxatives.
ahh...it has been so stressful and definitely the hardest thing we've been through thus far as parents. our ped doesn't seem concerned about any colon damage and says it's a phase a lot of toddlers go through so that is why i've not given her a laxative yet and hope to not have to. there are herbal ones though which are a bit less intense...
when she finally does poop (sometimes after holding it for 5 days) it's big but NOT constipated and hard so i know she's well hydrated and it's not a constipation thing.
and she tells me it doesn't hurt (because sometimes when she gets that feeling to poop, she screams like she is in the worst pain and holds her butt cheeks in sooo tightly) she does however tell me she's scared and doesn't like the way it feels.
so once she told us that, picking out the flower essenses was easy and we know it's an emotional attachment thing. for the mom sho asked about the flower essenses...a naturopathic doctor will have a list of all the flower essenses and they each have a description for what they will help with. our dd's is a mixture of three different ones.
this has truly been challening and i feel a bit of relief that other's are going through this (i mean, i wish NONE of us were going through this!!!)
our dd is also pretty much potty trained and if i don't have to go anywhere, i can usually get her to go poop in the potty...otherwise if we're out and she has a dipe on she will not let the poop out and she'll scream bloody murder if i try to take her to a public potty to poop!
anyway, sorry this long....
this too shall pass....right???