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#1 of 7 Old 05-08-2008, 04:28 PM - Thread Starter
 
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This is my 19 month old DS's new thing. For the last week or so, everything is about hitting people/animals/things. And he says it as he does it/is about to do it.

We don't hit. We have told him since he was able to raise a hand that we don't hit, that it hurts, that we like gentle touches. And now this has really ramped up. It is almost constant every day- the first words out of his mouth when he wakes up is "hit the Desi" (one of our dogs)

I Know this is a phase. And I watch him very closely, but I can NOT keep my eyeballs upon him EVERY second. He is running around hitting every one of our dogs, our cats (well, not the one smart enough to run in terror when he sees DS coming), us, and pretty much everything he can reach.

Other than continuing to repeat the "we don't hit, we like gentle touches" and putting him down if we are holding him, any other ideas to deter this behavior? Sometimes he does it, then immediately apologizes (without prompting) then does it again. I have told DH that it is an attention-getting technique (although why my constantly tended to, spend every second with, high needs DS needs MORE attention is beyond me)

Or should we just purchase body armor and ride it out??
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How does he seem when he hits? Cheerful? Anxious? Angry?
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We are having a very similar problem with ds (22 months). He thinks it is hilarious. Giggles everytime he hits me or daddy. Usually me. I try not to react other than to tell him "no hitting, we have gentle hands" or "mommy doesn't like hitting." followed by redirecting his activity... I don't really have any suggestions- hoping that others will give some advice!

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We have two drums around the house that we use when we need to hit.
I say 'oh Cayden, we don't hit kitty, can you help me find the drum so we can hit that instead'
It goes with throwing things too 'we don't throw our blocks, lets find a ball to throw'

So basically try to find something they can do with that instinct.

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When it's over-enthusiasm, I try to find something active for him to do like run around somewhere.
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"bang DANG!" everytime our 20 mo dsgets going. Everything seems to be game. I'm trying to teach him. ..."no, not that. Don't bang that" "no hitting the dogs..."

a phase...

this too shall......pass..... "bang DANG"

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Oh, he seems happy, gives this mischievous little grin. Sure, there are a few times when he does it out of anger, but it's mostly when he's happy.

Hmmmm...the drum is a good idea. We don't have anything REALLY meant for hitting, other than a ball. I've had him hit the couch before, but that's hard to move around, LOL if we are not in the family room.

My DH gets upset over this, and I keep telling him it's a phase. I am mostly worried he is going to hit hard enough to either seriously hurt the cat who DOESN'T run, or really piss off one of the dogs one day and get bit before I can intervene. Yes, I am ALWAYS watching them, but we all know how fast toddlers can move when they want to! Poor dogs!

Any other ideas?? Tahnks!

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