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#1 of 3 Old 07-02-2008, 02:32 AM - Thread Starter
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My DS has recently learned to use the potty during the day (hurray!) and has even had a few dry nights. I'm very proud of his progress, especially for his age. However, I'm left shaking my head when he almost seems as if he's intentionally trying to have an "accident". You know, when they're like a foot away from their potty but stop to pee and don't bother to tell you or take their undies off :? He's so good about telling me in time and has no problem taking his own undies off, but once a day or every other day, he seems to just not care to get himself wet. Sometimes he even seems amused by it. I don't get it. Why does that happen? I'm sure it will pass, I'm just curious as to the psychology behind it.

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heh heh heh heh. I have so been there are various ages with the three kids I have who are of the age to be toilet taught!

I can't say for sure, but my guess would be one of to things, or both...#1 would be testing the boundaries both w/ his physical ability to hold it or how full his bladder can get before he has to go (how long after he feels like he might have to) and/or #2 kids can control a few things w/ certainty -- eating, sleeping, and toileting, so maybe he's just asserting his control or independence in this way.

I'm no expert, so I imagine someone else could share some more enlightened wisdom about this, but that's what pops into my head.

PS For a while Cole would tell us he didn't have to go in the morning, having not gone for 12 hrs, and then at 8:54 or something most mornings he would finally go, all over his chair at the kitchen table and with a puddle around it. Lily had to be at school at 9:15. So frustrating!

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We've ec'd from birth so our son has known what to do from almost birth. 3 1/2 months to 4 1/2 months were the golden days. He told us for every pee. Then the world got too interesting. He had more important things to worry about than his pants.

We've been on a roller coaster ride since. At least he's pretty much pooped in the potty since 9 weeks. However, that pee thing. We thought we were totally done at 25 months. Then at 26 months he stopped telling us and at 27 months he refused to go in the potty. He's 30 month now. We're on vacation and washing training pants is a pain, so we've been more insistent with him.

I really think it's boredom. It's not that big a deal to be wet, but giving up playing--even if it's to sit on the potty 2 inches away--is just not worth it.

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