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Old 06-16-2009, 03:07 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi All,

I've had a wonderful nursing relationship with my DS, now 22 months, but right now I'm feeling very burned out. He has been pretty slow to solids, and nurses a ton still. For a while he had cut back, but lately he has been working on his 2 year old molars, and is nursing somewhere around 11 times/24 hours. He definitely is eating solids now, but small amounts, and I think it is just easier and faster for him to fill up on nursing and get back to playing instead of going through the work of eating solid food. I always offer a snack before nursing him, and sometimes he takes me up on it, but not always.

I'm just wondering how to best meet his needs at this point--should I just keep nursing on demand and trust that his solids intake will increase and his need to nurse decrease, or is he telling me that he needs me to help him transition to less nursing and more actual eating? I do want to continue to nurse, I'm not contemplating weaning, just thinking about cutting back... thoughts? Sorry this is long, just feeling the need to vent a bit!

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My DD nursed like a fiend around 22mos. It's probably just a phase, but it was soooo hard for me to handle and I feel your pain. I cut DD down after a few weeks of indulging her. I didn't tell her what I was doing--I just arranged for us to be out of the house all morning, then we'd come home for lunch and nursing, then go out again.

I did tell her that we were only nursing in one particular chair at home, and that helped. But I'm doing some gentle MLW now so I'm not sure if you would be comfortable with that restriction.

Good luck!

Oh--just remembered another thing I did. I let her pick out a new cup and plate, and that sparked an interest in eating/drinking a bit more.

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My 28 month old still nurses like this. I go through periods of feeling really burnt out and wanting to wean interspersed with times where I'm really okay with nursing her frequently and savoring the her as still a baby. I try to make sure I have a book or can go online while she nurses during the periods I'm burnt out. And I really try to keep up on housework - I tend to resent nursing more when I'm feeling stressed out about housework/meal prep/etc... and she's bugging me about it when I do that stuff.
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Thanks for your responses. It always makes me feel better to know I'm not alone, especially when most of my friends have weaned or at least way cut back...

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Dd nursed TONS right around that age, and by 6-8 months later had cut back significantly (for her...)

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Dd nursed TONS right around that age, and by 6-8 months later had cut back significantly (for her...)

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Good to know!

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Dd nursed TONS right around that age, and by 6-8 months later had cut back significantly (for her...)
I think this is a very common experience. I often read "nursing all the time" posts from people around 17-23 months AND its also common to read that kids really decrease their intake after their second birthday. Now, what that means for *you* isn't so clear, but it is definately a visable trend.

 

 

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I think this is a very common experience. I often read "nursing all the time" posts from people around 17-23 months AND its also common to read that kids really decrease their intake after their second birthday. Now, what that means for *you* isn't so clear, but it is definately a visable trend.
I think you're right, I've noticed this trend too. I'm also hopeful that his eating will pick up and his nursing drop off when the molars are in....

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My daughter was the same way at that age. Then, at about 23 months, I found out I was pregnant and decided I needed (for my own sanity and to prepare for baby #2) to switch her from mostly nursing (for sustenance) to mostly eating. It took me about one week (maybe a little more) which showed me she was ready for it. I did not sit on the floor or couch at all when she was awake for that entire time. For the first time since she was born I didn't wear "easy access" shirts (I had mostly worn v-necks). I kept snacks out all day long** so she could access them (rather than offering her a snack when she asked to nurse). I kept a kleen kanteen sippy with water where she could reach it (and brought it to her attention/offered it to her). I also used distraction...a lot of outside playtime helped.

The harder part turned out to be remembering to pack snacks to leave the house--I was so unaccustomed to that!

**I actually provided her with a snack tray every day after breakfast...the tray was a 6-muffin tin. I would put in olives, crackers, raisins, carrot sticks, etc. She got bored with these after awhile but not before it had done the trick!

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My daughter was the same way at that age. Then, at about 23 months, I found out I was pregnant and decided I needed (for my own sanity and to prepare for baby #2) to switch her from mostly nursing (for sustenance) to mostly eating. It took me about one week (maybe a little more) which showed me she was ready for it. I did not sit on the floor or couch at all when she was awake for that entire time. For the first time since she was born I didn't wear "easy access" shirts (I had mostly worn v-necks). I kept snacks out all day long** so she could access them (rather than offering her a snack when she asked to nurse). I kept a kleen kanteen sippy with water where she could reach it (and brought it to her attention/offered it to her). I also used distraction...a lot of outside playtime helped.

The harder part turned out to be remembering to pack snacks to leave the house--I was so unaccustomed to that!


**I actually provided her with a snack tray every day after breakfast...the tray was a 6-muffin tin. I would put in olives, crackers, raisins, carrot sticks, etc. She got bored with these after awhile but not before it had done the trick!
Great ideas and encouraging story--thanks!

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