My DD is also 16 mo, and we had to set some boundaries. Some days are harder than others -- but overall we've had a lot of success. I did post some of my tricks in the Mama Led Weaning tribe.
At this point I'm comfortable with an AM nursing, a nap nursing, a mid-day nursing, and a bedtime nursing. If she tries to get up my shirt or pull on me for nursing at another time when I'm just *not* into it, I say, "lets get a cup with milk," and I'll put a few oz of soymilk in her sippy. I sit with her as she drinks it. I'll read a book w/her or get involved with a toy w/her. Or, I'll put on her music DVD and we'll dance and sing.
It's all about giving them the attention they would have received nursing with positive and loving attention in another way -- while making sure if they are hungry or thirsty that that need is met, too.
Good luck, mama! You can do this!
SAHM to Nora Caitlyn ('08)
and Finnley Dax ('11)
homebirthing, breastfeeding, babywearing, intactivist, doula mama!