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#1 of 6 Old 04-02-2010, 02:11 PM - Thread Starter
 
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My ds is 14 months old and he has lately started to become violent when he nurses, he kicks and punches me, scratches me as much as he can like hes trying to tear my skin off my body bites my nipple . I just don't know what to do, I take him to work with me so he nurses when he wakes up, when we get to work, around lunchtime, before we go home, when we get home, after dinner, before bed and all night. I try to nurse him whenever he wants but I just don't think I can take this much abuse while nursing. I try to restrain him and not let him hit and kick me but then he unlatches and cries about it. I have seriously thought about trying to night wean him because honestly I am like a zombie, he nurses to sleep between 8 and 10 pm, then he sleeps about 2 hours (one night he slept for 5 hours and it was like heaven, but that was only 1 time in the last year) then he wakes up at least every 45 minutes from there on to nurse, and this goes on all night long. I really want him to nurse until he is 2 years old. He eats tons of solid foods during the day also, and a very wide variety of foods like meat, veggies, dairy, fruit so I don't think hes starving. Anyone been through this and have advice? Thanks in advance.
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If he's hurting you, stop him and show him that hurting you = nursing is done for now. My DS was kicking me in the neck. I would hold his foot, but there came a point where I had to tell him - ouch, that hurts Mama! All done!

Then the next time I remind him at the begining to be gentle. We have had this pop up now and again, and really just cutting him off (that session is OVER, he waits until the next normal nursing time) worked wonders.

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Do you think he is trying to stimulate a let down/tell your body to make more milk?
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I would choose to teach "nursing manners". I did this with both of our kids. At this age, if they did anything that hurt me I said "pinching hurts" (or whatever he did) and immediately ended the nursing session, and got up and walked away for a few minutes. He could try again in a few minutes after settling down and a reminder to be gentle with mommy.

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Thank you for your ideas, so far its not working but im sure with time and being consistent he will figure it out. As far as maybe im not making enough milk, that could be true I don't know how to tell. Thanks again mamas!
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Oh man. I feel for you. One for getting beat up by your baby, but also cause you are not getting good sleep!!! I think (hope this doesn't make anyone upset) but children/babies temperaments are also effected by their amount of restorative sleep. If he is waking so often at night it could definitely effect his moods and behavior. When my 3 year olds are overtired they are bears. My dd is going thru some night waking right now and when she wakes up a few times a night the next day she is not herself at all - more moody and temperamental. I wonder if night-weaning would be wise for both of you.

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