Most days especially when I am pms'ing I am feelng very over nursing my sweet son. We are down to about 3 times a day, wakeup (this is the one-time that is most often skipped), before nap and before bed. Also if he wakes up to go to the bathroom he will often ask for milk and has just a bit and then goes to sleep.
I don't know anyone in real life who has nursed this long and feel I don't have anyone to ask advice or to help me with how often and when it's ok to refuse.
He usually nurses both sides and then wants to go back and forth, I don't really enjoy all this nursing at this point, I had hoped we would be done around 2. I give him a countdown and something to look forward to which sometimes works and sometimes he will just bawl. I usually say, ok pop off in 5, 4, 3, 2 and (he will usually pop off before one and say cuddle me!) and then say ok, cuddle time.
Sorry this is getting long. I don't want to be inconsiderate or mess with him emotionally, is there a right way to refuse when i am not in the mood to nurse (other side, other side, other side), is it wrong to let him know that sometimes I just don't feel like nursing anymore?
If I just talk to him about not drinking Momma Milk anymore and tell him he can have (soy, almond, hemp) milk instead and momma can always cuddle with him when he needs me to be close- can I wean him completely? Am I going to break his heart completely or ruin our relationship if I do it this way?
I so want to be done, I just feel like 2-1/2 years is enough. My goal was 2 years because of the WHO guidelines but I really didn't have any clue what would happen after that, I made it this far and feel good about that and will try for two years with any future children.
Anyone had similar feelings and wean when they were ready and not when lo was ready- around this age? I do feel that nursing has been just as healthy for his physical needs as it has been for his emotional needs and don't want to have regrets- any advice is appreciated.