I don't think it's about hunger as I have an over-abundant milk supply (I still leak/spray and can pump 8 oz. in 10 minutes) and she eats TONS of solid foods. And I'm not sure if it's teething since she just got her first four molars (she has 12 teeth) and seems to be done with that for now.
I have tried:
- Repeatedly breaking suction when she really clamps down... but she just latches right on again (or cries if I don't let her).
- Giving her cold wet facecloths or teething toys or a sippy cup with soft nipple... NOT interested. (And she's never taken a paci and hates bottles).
- Cuddling or rocking her--she screams and screams and pulls on my shirt and asks to nurse ("na na na na")
- Closing up my nursing bra and holding her tight and saying "sleep sleep sleep" (which is normally a good way to help her off to sleep but in this case is just resulting in her screaming and crying for a few minutes until I relent and reopen the bra...)
And I'm 100% against crying it out or not responding to her or putting her in another room and ignoring her... but I am considering sleeping in the other room and letting my husband see if he can get her to go back to sleep when she wakes up tonight--when I gave her to him this morning he was able to rock her to sleep in five minutes. That might have been a fluke, though...
help? advice? commiseration? thanks in advance!
Sewing, knitting, breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth diapering + working mama to baby Zora (born 6/22/10)
Hang in there. My DS did something similar (though not quite as bad...) on and off for a couple off weeks around 13 months. I'm no longer working, so it was easier to catch up on the sleep. I was working full time for his first year, so I commiserate how hard it can be working full time outside of the home...esp. on little sleep!
If you're thinking about not nursing her, I rec. looking at the book "Good Nights - The happy family's guide to the family bed." There is a section on night weaning. Would she take a bottle of expressed milk from your husband?
I can commiserate but I am not in the same boat as I stopped working once my son was born. I can tell you though that my son goes through bouts of all night nursing and then back to several short sessions a night. It just seems like a temporary change and then he retuns to his norm. I would imagine it will return to the norm for your little one too, right now only one thing will address her needs and it may better to just hang in there and try to get through it.
I think letting your husband deal with it is a great idea. Your toddler will be in loving care with someone who doesn't have the ability to nurse. No matter how much she begs or cries, your husband can't nurse her. You get your sleep, they get theirs. Breastfeeding is a relationship that needs to work for both people. She is young to wean, so the best thing is to find out the best boundaries for the both of you. I hope this helps. And good luck to you.