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#1 of 3 Old 03-11-2012, 08:13 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm tired.  I'm co-sleeping still and she wakes up about every 1.5 hours to nurse back to sleep.  By the time the morning comes my nipples are really sore.  At around 5am she stays on for like 45 mins, whereas the other times she's on and off in 5 mins.  I am a single mother and am co-sleeping.  I've been with my mom for 6 months while I find a house to buy myself (after my ex-husband and I split up).  I'm wondering if I should try night weaning soon after we move to the new house, or is that too much change?  I was also considering starting her in her own room right away at the new house as well.  I would still probably spend most of the night in her bed, but at least it is her room and her bed and my room becomes my room again.  Thoughts?  I have read the Dr. Jay Gordon article and may try that...it has to be a time I can be severely sleep deprived though because even now if she doesn't get to nurse right away she sits up and cries for it.  

 

I'm nervous and already feel guilty!

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Hi Mama.

 

I really feel for you.  My two year old still does the same thing (very frequent night waking to nurse, which I think is because we co-sleep).

 

I have found that parenting, amongst all the lovely and positive aspects, is a long exercise in being nerve-wracked and feeling guilty.  I have an older teen, too, so I have a perspective beyond the toddler years as well.

 

You have a ton on your plate, and I would say that anything that makes your life easier is worth looking into.  You should feel really good about nursing your child this long and throughout what sounds like pretty significant personal trauma. 

 

The main reason we haven't night-weaned, honestly, is because if I don't nurse him, he gets all hysterical and screamy.  I have recently tried telling him my breasts are sleeping, which works maybe one out of ten times.  I have also tried telling him "okay" when he semi-wakes and asks to nurse...kind of trying to say yes, so he won't get upset, but then not actually nursing.  It works about the same as the other.

 

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The main reason we haven't night-weaned, honestly, is because if I don't nurse him, he gets all hysterical and screamy.  I have recently tried telling him my breasts are sleeping, which works maybe one out of ten times.  I have also tried telling him "okay" when he semi-wakes and asks to nurse...kind of trying to say yes, so he won't get upset, but then not actually nursing.  It works about the same as the other.

 


 


Ooooh thanks for these tips. I just started a thread about our nightweaning woes and it's the same thing as you: DS got so hysterical the ONE night we tried to nightwean that we gave up. I have a feeling the Jay Gordon method might not work so well for kids who are more likely to get hysterical. I know a lot of kids will cry for awhile but then fall back asleep....but some keep escalating and do not get sleepy but rather keep screaming and freaking out.

 

I'll try these ideas and see if it can cut our night nursing down. One I have tried that's similar is telling him the milk is gone (which it often is, and he complains about) and that the boobs need time to make more milk (which is true!). A few times he has accepted this and said "okay", other times he keeps insisting.

 

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