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#1 of 3 Old 07-26-2012, 12:21 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Weaning tips? PLEASE? I know he's only 18mo but I'm done. I don't love it anymore. I'm starting to resent having to do it. I'm tired of the soreness with the crappy latch and the tantrums when I say "not right now." 
We already don't nurse in public or at night. But during the day he views it as open bar. He will seriously refuse water and food if I don't force him to go until he's desperate for something. (He's gotten slightly dehydrated before because he wanted to NURSE and I refused and made him drink water) My supply can't keep up with his needs. 
I tried giving him something "special" in place of nursing (seriously juice and candy) and it makes no difference. If given the choice he will nurse instead of eat candy. I'm proud but frustrated.
ANY help or advice you can give would be awesome. I'm frustrated to the point of tears as he stands and screams hysterically because I just now said "not right now" and walked away when he got physical.


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Can he spend some time with other kids in a play setting where they might all share snacks together? It could distract him from you and get him eating with the other kids. I weaned each of my kids around 21 months but didn't have the hard time that at you're having. They accepted the situation pretty well. They'd each spent some time in part time daycare and loved group meals so that might have helped.
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at 18 months can you sit and snuggle him through a tantrum without nursing, even if he gets physical? Don't let him hurt you, but just snuggle him through it? We didn't have to do that for weaning, but I had to do a lot of it with my daughter, oh from about 18 months till 3 yrs old to get her through tantrums, usually when she didn't get what she wanted.

The goal is for him to learn that he will still get all of the comfort and love, even without the breastfeeding.

At 18 months, I just don't think he has enough self control to stop himself from getting physical during these tantrums. He's not really learning anything from you walking away. He's just getting more frustrated.

and yes, occasionally I couldn't handle the tantrums. On those times I closed myself in the bathroom and let her have a tantrum until she fell asleep banging on the door. Overall, the tantrum snuggle is more effective wink1.gif.
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