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#1 of 13 Old 02-21-2013, 04:02 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have spent a lot of time on these forums over the years, especially searching for advice about a baby who nursed "all night long". I thought I would share our story. My son has always been a big fan of nursing, and at 3 years old, he is still. I have never held back, never said no (although occasionally as he was over two discouraged him here and there when he didn't really need to). And for the first 18 months of his life he nursed about every 45 minutes all night long. We coslept, and I just let him do it as he pleased. And at the same time, I wondered if it would ever stop, if he would ever learn to sleep through the night, and more than anything if there was going to be a major battle to get him to night wean someday. But I didn't want the heartache and trouble of night weaning my friends were having, so I just kept at it. By about 2 he was nursing every 2 hours at night, and by 2.5 once or twice. Now, he is almost 3, and he sleeps through the night. He nurses for about 3 minutes to fall asleep, and then when he wakes in the morning he can lay there and nurse for upwards of 45 minutes -- we both enjoy it, I read a novel laying in bed (yay!) and he gets the intimacy he loves. Then that's it until bedtime. 

 

So, the answer is, at least in our family, that it will happen someday and it can be peaceful and child-led. I am really delighted that it worked out this way and treasure our breastfeeding relationship. Now for the tandem adventure as we are expecting #2 in about 4 months! 

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Thanks for sharing your story!

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Thank you, thank you, thank you! :-D
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I just wanted to add another "success story". We just had a very similar experience as OP. My son was a frequent night nurser for a long time, and over the past few months gradually stopped on his own. He has been sleeping through the night for a couple weeks now. We still nurse to sleep and at wake up time, and he still co sleeps. Last night he even woke up and asked for water, then put himself back to sleep without nursing. It feels wonderful smile.gif DS is just about 2.5

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Thanks Susanmary, what a wonderful post.

I am mom to a 3.5 yr old and have noticed quite a difference lately per the night time nursing. Watching the natural weaning unfold is fascinating to me.

Best wishes to you!

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Thank you so much for sharing!  My 10 month old daughter goes 1-4 hours at night and it is good to see light at the end of the tunnel.


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Thank you so much for posting this!  I've been feeling like my 2.5 year old nurses constantly at night (pretty often during the day, too), and sometimes I get so resentful.  He's been sick lately (just a cold) and so I know he needs more nursing, but it still gets frustrating.  Especially when I have to pee really bad and I can't get him off me! I've been starting to wonder if I have made a mistake in letting him nurse so much, since sometimes I feel like it is increasing and there seems to be no end in sight. I knew Mothering would help!

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:-) hi... Hugs... Emom47 we are in the same boat here. You made me smile with your reference to being unable to pee. That's so relevant to me today as I couldn't escape for a moment last night. Fingers crossed ours will wean peacefully. :-)
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I was looking through older threads because I am feeling so frickin irritable with nursing lately, especially night nursing, with my 2 year old (26 months). It feels like I'm never going to sleep more than 2-3 hours at a time for the rest of my life. I wake up relatively briefly because we cosleep, but still, it's interrupted sleep and it's getting old! Daytime nursing is pretty frequent too but I think I can decrease that by working harder at finding distractions. Maybe. shrug.gif

 

Anyway, it's nice to read a story like this. Thanks for sharing it!


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love it!! stories like this really keep me going! (10 and 1/2 month old nurses every 1-4 hours every night) :)

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So nice to read - thanks for sharing!

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Thanks for sharing.

I had the same experience with both my kids. Both were frequent night nursers until around two.

Then I could nightwean them easily, as long as someone else was still sleeping with them. Around 4 y/o, we started talking about weaning completely and it went very smoothly with both of them. It's so easy when they are ready and they don't need it anymore.


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