So, DS is 3.75 and nurses just a teeny weeny bit -- one side, five minutes, bedtime only. But my libido is still nonexistent. Is that normal?
Will it come back as soon as he is totally weaned, or do I need to look into my hormone levels now?
I'm not on any medications or hormonal birth control.
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I would look at your hormones. If you are really not nursing that much - it would seem to me that there is more going on. I lost my libido after my first DS (he is almost 5). It never came back and now I have another DD who is 1 and it's still gone. I plan on tacking the issue aggressively when she is done nursing. (I have had my hormone levels tested but by the time I did that I was trying to conceive so opted to wait to address the problem. It sux - its a strain on my marriage. I hope you can figure this out!
If the people let government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as are the souls of those who live under tyranny." Thomas Jefferson.
I guess now I don't feel so bad - DD is 17mos and nada here, huge strain on our marriage and initially I chalked it up to BF, but honestly it wasn't all there pre-baby so I can't say I'm all that surprised. I'm tackling ISR lessons right now with DD which takes up my extra cash but my plan is once classes end, getting in with our ND for a visit - DD needs a follow up on her food issues anyways and I'm interested to see what she can do to help me out! Although I have a double whammy - no libido plus my midwife was a little too stitch happy post baby and ain't nuthin' stretching that
Hormones are such hard work at times!! Definitely look into yours, you can do a fair bit with just food changes - making sure you aren't getting low blood sugar makes a huge difference
Also the thyroid mentioned earlier - making sure that's working well means that your energy levels are more likely to make you more receptive too
Good luck (and go you for having an extended feeding relationship!)
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Mine has been gone since about 2008, and I'm still waiting for it to come back! And on top of that my body has taken quite a battering from all my pregnancies, subconsciously affecting my self esteem- which has not helped the situation. I get to where I start exercising and then I stop after a week or two. (I don't want to seem like I am complaining though because my little ones are worth the world to me.) I have also been told to check my hormones but I never got the chance because now I am pregnant again, but when I get to check them I hope it helps me. I was also told that a lot of people are iodine deficient and it can cause problems in your health. As we know iodine is what helps the thyroid to produce hormones. About 2 weeks ago I started taking liquid iodine every other day so I have not noticed any improvement/difference yet.
Are hormone issues usually the cause for libido problems? Does anyone know?
My libido didn't come back until I got my first moon cycle since becoming pregnant, which for me, was when DS was 2.5. Around that same time my milk dried up and nursing became very uncomfortable. My libido was almost nonexistant, and in the course of a few weeks, it was back at full swing, actually fuller swing I think than it was pre-pregnancy, which was a lot of fun and a huge relief for me and DH. We had basically no sex life for more than 3 years--that was rough, but we got through it. Even if you're nursing just a tiny bit, the nursing hormones are there, and that can change everything. I wouldn't worry about it--it's just the universe's way of telling you to put energies elsewhere right now (and hopefully DH understands!)
This makes total sense to me especially if a person already has adrenal fatigue before getting pregnant. Having a child only makes the situation worsen with the lack of sleep and stress. Not complaining because I too am so happy to be a mom and would give the world for it. I have had libido issues even after weaning, but because of my background in health know that now that I've weaned its time for a good detox (which I start tomorrow Yay!!) and endocrine support. Thank you for your response,
Making absolutely no assumptions about you or your life or family. In my case, my (now ex)husband was treating me very poorly, sometimes abusively, and it drastically affected my libido. It just happened to coincide with having little kids.
I noticed this shift in other families, where things had been fairly egalitarian before kids but become more traditional in gender-role-division-of-labor after, and this seemed to be a source of resentment for some of my friends.
If there are other things that aren't working in a relationship, it can affect desire for sure. I felt it bore mentioning, as I think there can be an attitude of "should" in our culture with regard to sexual activity in a relationship, as if it's some separate thing from the rest of life.
I totally agree with the PP, sometimes it's the relationship that increases, decreases, or sometimes kills libido
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very very common - but no not normal. You should be able to have some positive affect by taking action through your preferred health care. Make sure that you are eating and resting well and check your self esteem, and your relationship. Mine improved after talking to my dh about the fact that he could be a little patronising at times and noone wants to be having sex with their father.
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