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#1 of 12 Old 05-10-2013, 06:35 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi all,

I'm hoping for some reassurance here. My son turned 17months a few days ago. For approximately the past 2 weeks he has become very very clingy to me, old fears have also re-emerged (e.g. the sound of the vacuum cleaner), and he is requesting to nurse almost constantly throughout the day unless he is very distracted. It was only 3 weeks ago when I was commenting to my husband about how independent he was becoming. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this and whether it is (hopefully) a phase?
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Is he getting molars? Might you be pregnant? Anything else going on? Checked his height lately?

My DS definitely got clingy and constantly nursing when he got his first set of molars and even a bit for the second. And these days (he'll be 3 next week, we're still nursing) when he is having a growth spurt, he starts to get some growing pains, doesn't want to walk anywhere himself, and nurses more than usual. Or it may even be something as simple as a cognitive milestone, where he has realized his indepedence and is a little bit afraid of it. I'd try to be as happy as you can about all the nursing. I get grumpy sometimes when DS seems so demanding, "Seriously?! You were JUST on the boobie!" and then I notice a tooth or that he's hurting and I feel so bad for being a grump! If you are relaxed about it, it can be so reassuring to him.


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Thanks flyrabbitfky, that's great advice. It feel it might even be a combination of a cognitive leap & molars, he could have even had a growth spurt too. He's always been very tall. I'll keep your words in mind as it does get tough. Thanks :-D
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Omg glad I found this! My son has been super clingy lately and it seems he can't nurse enough! He is 13 months now and I was starting to think maybe I'm just not producing enough milk anymore! But he has been getting molars so this must be it.... I think they are all the way through or close to so hopefully he will back to his happy non-Whiney self soon because it's been a couple weeks of this and I want my happy baby back!!!!

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A lot of babies are really cranky and clingy when they teethe, especially when they get molars or eye teeth.

 

I don't know how other moms feel about ibuprofen or acetaminophen, but I gave it to my babies when they were teething just because with their molars and eye teeth they were so miserable. Some parents aren't comfortable using these meds, and I can completely understand that. My youngest got terribly constipated (totally breastfed at 7 months) when she was getting teeth. She was my most miserable baby while teething, and I gave her OTC Motrin. In those days, 12 year ago, they didn't have dye free meds, and they dye must have caused the constipation. I had my Pediatrician order dye free ibuprofen and acetaminophen from a compounding pharmacy for her.

 

Anyway, there are also homeopathic remedies for teething and chewing on frozen chew toys is helpful. They are in pain when they are teething so of course, they get clingy because they want to be near you. Teething pain usually ends when the tooth erupts, so it's short lived... then they start on an other one.

 

I did a lot of gum massage with my babies when they were teething. It seemed to help and also helps before nursing. Some babies feel strong tingling when they start the suction for nursing when they are teething and some babies respond to this by biting down. That's OK with a chew toy, NOT OK on Mama. The gum massage is really helpful for this.

 

Good luck, Mamas. Teething can be miserable for some babies.


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Just so you know I have noticed the dye free pain relievers contain artificial sweeteners but the ones with dyes don't! It's strange to me bug anyhow I've thought about giving him Motrin because I don't want him to be in pain but then I think, well what if he sing really in pain just cranky! I would hate to Medicare for no reason... It's do hard to really know. Maybe u should try some Motrin tonight and if he sleeps better than he has all week I guess then I'll know!!

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I know many parents who like to avoid allopathic meds altogether and I respect that. Sometimes homeopathic meds work, sometimes they don't. (At least in my experience.)

 

The ingredients for brand name Infant Motrin Drops are identical, except for the color, now.  But, I do know a lot of parents who don't like to use it. I always did, but I would get very upset when my kids were (are) in pain and would do nearly anything to stop it. :)  (I have a chronic pain disorder and have some strong feelings about pain and its treatment. So, it could be just me.)

 

Ingredients
Active Ingredient: Ibuprofen (NSAID)*
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Infants' Motrin® Concentrated Drops - Berry Flavor
 
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Ibuprofen 50 mg (NSAID)* in each 1.25mL anhydrous citric acid, caramel, FD&C red no.40, flavors, glycerin, polysorbate 80, pregelatinized starch, purified water, sodium benzoate, sorbitol solution, sucrose, xanthan gum
 
Infants' Motrin® Concentrated Drops -
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Ibuprofen 50 mg (NSAID)* in each 1.25mL anhydrous citric acid, caramel, flavors, glycerin, polysorbate 80, pregelatinized starch, purified water, sodium benzoate, sorbitol solution, sucrose, xanthan gum

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Thx they must have removed the artificial sweeteners! Good to know! When my first was a baby I noticed that the dye free ones had sucralose but the regular ones did not! So I bought the regular ones bc I decided if I had to choose between dyes or Artificial sweeteners I picked dyes!

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My kids are too old for these but I'm glad they took the artificial stuff out.

When we had our compounding pharmacy make ours he usef reg sugar. They were thick as molasses but they worked had no dyes or fake sweetners. I'm glad Mamas and Papas can buy them like this w/o all the fuss now. :-)

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@MaggieLC I had to laugh a little Maggie that in one thread we had such a heated debate and then not long after we are on another talking about something completely different! Thx I appreciate no hard feelings lol
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Hey no problem. People sometimes disagree. No biggie. smile.gif I'm not a grudge holder and I'm guessing neither are you.

I'm always happy to find common ground with other Mamas! ♡♥

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